“My dieting never lasts for long. Each time it lasts for one month at most and then I get tired, it feels like a punishment.” she shared.
“What is your intention for dieting?” I asked
The logical answer came in “to be healthy and fit.”
I kept pressing and she added, “well, my blood test is great. Everything is fine with me.”
“What is your intention for dieting?” I pressed
“A flat belly looks beautiful when I dress up.” She added, hearing her own self loud in front of another
“Who said that a flat belly looks beautiful when you are dressed up?” I asked
“My mother, I have heard her being cautious about food, her own uneasiness around her body size, structure all her life. I see how I have joined her on this ride.” She added as her narratives unfold
|MY DEBRIEF AS A WITNESS AND COACH|
Behind everything that we do, be and engage in whether actively or passively, we carry intentions. Above all these intentions, we carry meanings, deeply embedded meanings that we use to navigate life
Some meanings allow us to stand in our Power and be our bestest selves and other meanings drains us.
Often we engage in activities with a certain focus, yet we do not reach far, for underneath we have a circus of meanings, intentions, beliefs, relating, identities and much more at play.
This was a recurring example of what on the surface seems to be “weight control and health”, yet underneath, we have an amazing woman trying to reach a beauty standard connected to the flatness of her belly with beliefs, agreements and narratives planted from an early ,she was made to believe that there is wrongness with her body.
1. WOMEN BODIES AND CONSUMERISM
Women’s bodies are contested terrains. In this system that we live in, women’s bodies are being used against them.
From an early age we are fed with beliefs and agreements that if we are to be accepted then there are bodily-standards that we have to reach.
To reach these standards outside our human scopes, we will consume all sort of services and products.
The survival of this capitalist consumerism world rests on deepening consumptions.
Women are by far the biggest consumers of this world.
2. CLARITY OVER YOUR “WHY”
Whatever it is that we are engaged in or we seek to engage or explore, have clarity on and over our “intention”?
Why is this important for me?
We are not looking at reasoning but at uncovering our values. This simple question carries the potential to reveal much for, to and through us.
More than often, areas that seek acknowledgements will emerge and this could demand deeper works and conversing.
3. CHANGING BODIES
Our physical body is bound to undergo deep changes throughout the course of our life.
There is no escape to it.
Even as a yoga teacher, my physical body as underwent deep changes, my belly is not flat, neither are my booty and none of these are my intentions.
Our physical body will keep changing and evolving, the health of our body matters.
4. UNEASINESS BEING WHAT WE ARE PHYSICALLY
This is a conversation that calls to be held over and over again with self, with others and this world.
There are deep discomforts for most women connected to how we look physically. None of these are natural to our essence; we are speaking of centuries of domestications, veiling, contamination, narratives
THE CALL TO |RE-CLAIMING| RE-CONCILIATING| RE-MEMBERING| RE-WRITING| IS ROARING
I will love to hear from you and how all these resonate with you
Love from my heart to yours
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