Balance an Ever Dynamic Dance

These past months ushered intensity in ways I have not experienced before. Four months through the steepest inward descend, I am gently yet fiercely emerging allowing balance to own it’s rightful place.

Our human body, this temple knows its way to balancing,

to reaching, to being and to doing equilibrium.

I am witnessing how the world that we live in, has cut off from this essence, from this truth.

When we pause long enough to listen, there is this intuitive flow that guides us to whatever it is that we need most at specific times.

Our physical body does not operate in isolate. We are an intricate system of emotions, chemicals, atoms, molecules and through it all, energy is the essence and the core.

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I believe there is an intelligence within us that knows it’s way to achieving balance at all levels. This intelligence is alive, in motion, in service, in support, in guidance, in leading within each one of us.

 

What we go through, how we go through, our lifestyles, our inner world, our beliefs, our agreements, our narratives, our fears, our wounds, our trauma, our hopes, our dreams, our desires, our passions, our expectations, our disappointments, our celebrations, our beginnings, our endings, our emotions, our feelings, our reacting, our responding, they all impact on our inner equilibrium.

 

June 2010, I made a choice to end my 10years heavy medical allergic treatment with no back up. It would take me months to learn to trust that all I had to do was to give my physical body space to walk it’s way to balance while learning to tend to both my draining and healthy cycles, patterns, narratives, reacting, and responding.

It has been a long journey since; my physical body has healed in ways that cannot be explained. These past 8years, we had uncovered diseases, unexplained peaks of triglyceride, high probability of fibromyalgia, clinical depression, high inflamed sciatic nerves, shoulder sciatic, unexplained prolonged head aches, Post Traumatic Syndrome & Post-Secondary Traumatic Syndrome, the list is endless.

Each time, I have been diagnosed with one such so called disconnected disease, I would pause long enough and whisper “we will show you”.

“We will show you”, is my way of roaring that the entirety of “Whatever I am” does not and will not conclude an agreement with the diagnosis.

I am not negating the help of medical science but modern medicines treat us as disconnected operating parts. In recent years, quantum physics have been surfacing wisdom in a more understandable or rather acceptable ways. Quantum Physics is now bringing evidence of an interconnected life within and with the outside world, how gratitude impacts, how prayers miles away can heal and how one tiny butterfly can either cause a havoc or birth a new world. None of these are aliens to our psyche, for deep within, there is this intelligence that still taps into this wisdom passed through our ancestors, be it through the way we are called to honor food, life, earth and healing through nature.

 

Since 2010, I have learned to hold myself to this trust that my body is always working towards equilibrium and my job is not to get in it’s way.

I recommend that whoever seeks to engage consciously, actively and with full awareness on such path, to please seek support from grounded facilitators.

There are endless unconventional modalities that support humans holistically be it through energy healing, movements, art of breathing, meditation, creative expressions, coaching.

 

On my own journey, my focus has been on reconnecting with my body temple. I have immersed myself in yoga, energy works, healing, coaching, arts and creative expressions, movements works, nature, intentional rituals, my menstruation cycle and trauma works.

 

When we begin to trust this intelligence that dwell within, there is wave of transformation that ushers in and one step at a time, we are transformed from what we eat, to how we speak, from our hair to our toes.

Balance right now is not the same Balance in coming hours or months or years.

Our job is not to get in the way of our Balance. Our job is not to control our equilibrium but rather to play an active role in walking towards our inner Balance.

And we start playing that active role, our inner balance shifts our outer world,; relationships, people, places; food, breathing, work, creating and much more.

 

2019 is my year of speaking, spreading, whispering, talking, teaching, learning, creating, co-creating, unlearning about cycles. As a Circle Facilitator and an Em-Powerment Coach for Women, I thought I had understood the essence of cycles yet these past months I was swirled into my own cycles.

 

For two weeks now, I have been consciously rewiring my brain. This rewiring is a grounded choice pertaining to what has emerged for me. Rewiring is not unknown to us yet we are not many to do it consciously.

 

I have much to share, to say, to whisper, to give and to receive.

In coming weeks and months, I will dive deeper in my sharing.

I believe the juiciness and ripeness of our stories are meant to be shared as prayers for self and collective.

 

As I ease my way through my sharing, I invite each one of you to pause and let these words seep deep within. You may agree or disagree, you connect or disconnect with me, know that there is space for it all. My intention is not to seek alignment nor agreement but rather to ignite conversations that will serve the purpose of moving us to question, to query, to seek and to challenge with the intent of elevating awareness and living consciously.

 

I will love to hear from you.

 

Love from my heart to yours

 

Megha Venketasamy

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|WEIGHT|BELLY FLATNESS| BOOBSTIGHTNESS| BOOTY FIRMNESS” WRIGGLENESS FACE| 

“My dieting never lasts for long. Each time it lasts for one month at most and then I get tired, it feels like a punishment.” she shared.
“What is your intention for dieting?” I asked
The logical answer came in “to be healthy and fit.”
I kept pressing and she added, “well, my blood test is great. Everything is fine with me.”
“What is your intention for dieting?” I pressed

“A flat belly looks beautiful when I dress up.” She added, hearing her own self loud in front of another
“Who said that a flat belly looks beautiful when you are dressed up?” I asked
“My mother, I have heard her being cautious about food, her own uneasiness around her body size, structure all her life. I see how I have joined her on this ride.” She added as her narratives unfold

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|MY DEBRIEF AS A WITNESS AND COACH|
Behind everything that we do, be and engage in whether actively or passively, we carry intentions. Above all these intentions, we carry meanings, deeply embedded meanings that we use to navigate life


Some meanings allow us to stand in our Power and be our bestest selves and other meanings drains us.
Often we engage in activities with a certain focus, yet we do not reach far, for underneath we have a circus of meanings, intentions, beliefs, relating, identities and much more at play.

This was a recurring example of what on the surface seems to be “weight control and health”, yet underneath, we have an amazing woman trying to reach a beauty standard connected to the flatness of her belly with beliefs, agreements and narratives planted from an early ,she was made to believe that there is wrongness with her body.

|TRUTH|
1. WOMEN BODIES AND CONSUMERISM

Women’s bodies are contested terrains. In this system that we live in, women’s bodies are being used against them.
From an early age we are fed with beliefs and agreements that if we are to be accepted then there are bodily-standards that we have to reach.
To reach these standards outside our human scopes, we will consume all sort of services and products.
The survival of this capitalist consumerism world rests on deepening consumptions. 
Women are by far the biggest consumers of this world.

2. CLARITY OVER YOUR “WHY”
Whatever it is that we are engaged in or we seek to engage or explore, have clarity on and over our “intention”?
Why is this important for me?
We are not looking at reasoning but at uncovering our values. This simple question carries the potential to reveal much for, to and through us.
More than often, areas that seek acknowledgements will emerge and this could demand deeper works and conversing.

3. CHANGING BODIES
Our physical body is bound to undergo deep changes throughout the course of our life.
There is no escape to it.
Even as a yoga teacher, my physical body as underwent deep changes, my belly is not flat, neither are my booty and none of these are my intentions.
Our physical body will keep changing and evolving, the health of our body matters.

4. UNEASINESS BEING WHAT WE ARE PHYSICALLY
This is a conversation that calls to be held over and over again with self, with others and this world.
There are deep discomforts for most women connected to how we look physically. None of these are natural to our essence; we are speaking of centuries of domestications, veiling, contamination, narratives


THE CALL TO |RE-CLAIMING| RE-CONCILIATING| RE-MEMBERING| RE-WRITING| IS ROARING

I will love to hear from you and how all these resonate with you

Love from my heart to yours

#NyameDua #MeghaVenketasamy #MetaCoach

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To be Heard

Sisters,

If you seek to be heard, then know that your half-baked sharing will not suffice.

I say “to be heard”, for to be understood happens at another level.

Truth be, we all seek to be heard.

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Over the years I have witnessed myself and so many women reaching out for support yet withholding ourselves from speaking out our hearts unshamingly.

 

If there is one thing that I have learned from my relating with my sister and other women in my life is that “my openness to speaking “whatever it is” that is churning is my space, leads me to a space of seeing, hearing, feeling, witnessing and acknowledging “whatever it is” that is crucial for my growth in that moment in time.

 

When we open to speak our heart, it matters less whether the other understand or not, what matters most is during the act of sharing we will reach a peak where we start hearing our own selves.

This act of hearing self carries the seeds of healing, shifting and transformation.

 

So if you seek to be heard, stop withholding information.

Speak specifically about “whatever it is”, be it of confusions, pains, wounds

Do what you can but do not withhold information from your own self.

 

It is not about what the other will think of you nor how the other will see, hear or feel you but rather about your own comfort and /or discomfort at seeing, hearing, feeling, witnessing and acknowledging “whatever it is” for your own self.

 

 

To women who come to me for women circles and one to one coaching,I always send them back home with this gift of trust.

It takes tremendous trust of self to open up to one’s stories in front of another.Clients often confuse this trust to be that of trusting a facilitator’s tool, which is part of the process but the entirety of the trust comes from one woman too tired, too frail, too shaky,to even understand that she has reached a point on her path where trusting her body and her psyche is all that is left to her and for her.

 

Such woman pours out her entirety vulnerably without any inhibitions, without second thinking and as she pours out, she starts hearing herself, from that act of hearing, there is a deeper level of understanding that oozes and slowly healing, shifting and transformations pace in.

 

I am not saying to share your story with anyone you meet along way, I am simply saying while you open up to share, ground yourself in trusting your own self while remembering it is not what about the other will think, feel, believe, see and hear of you but it’s about you and your path.

 

Sisters,

If being heard is what you seek then know that your half-baked sharing of “whatever it is” in your space is dis-serving you.

 

If you are unable to speak openly, then maybe this is a place to start with and then to gently allow yourself to be witnessed by someone else when you are willing to.

 

Years of dwelling in fear of life has numbed us from our instincts, there was a time when the act of sharing, whispering, saying, listening, hearing and gossiping were prayers said, held and nurtured for one another.

 

Take it one step at a time

| Check your inner judgement | Check your self talks |the Dos | the Don’ts |

| the Should Have | | the Should Not Have |

 

One step at a time

Be kind and gentle towards your self

It’s an intense time

We are all waking up

We will no more be able to bypass it all with “positive chanting”

Whether we want it or not, life is ushering us all to embrace “whatever it is” that hurts, pains, wounds most, for this is the way to liberating

 

As you walk that path of gathering your selves

May you give yourself permission to be heard vulnerably wholely

May you gently walk your self home

May this walk teach you to guard off life

May life whisper your essence to you

May you be brave enough to listen

 

 

Love from my heart to yours

 

Megha Venketasamy

 

#NyameDua #MeghaVenketasamy #MetaCoach

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PACE | PACE | LEAD

If we seek to connect and engage actively with anyone on this earth, we start with rapport building. We start by becoming, mirroring, humming, whispering as that who is in front of us.

In a conversation we step into the other’s world while holding boundaries grounded, for the intention is to see, feel, hear, and experience the other’s world through the other.
We breathe the same breaths.
We tone the same tone.
We wiggle the same wiggle.
We giggle the same giggle.
We beat the same beat until the other sees him/her in us.

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This is no mimicking.


This is the sacred act of acknowledging the world that has just shown up in front of us
We then reach a potent peak where we are fully aligned.
The fertile soil of the other is ready and willing to be lead to the next level.
 
This is the dance we engage in coaching.
We pace, pace and lead with the client.
As coaches, we hold the frames and we lead the game for the intention is hold space for the client to manifest for his/her self whatever it is that she/he has gained clarity on.
 
The quality, intensity and depth of rapport “Pace|Pace|Lead” determine that which the client opens up his/her self to, awareness, choices and commitments for the next.
Put it simply, unless, we are in rapport, what happens is aligned with set intentions.

When we are out of rapport, what we manifest is not aligned with our intentions.
Yet what we manifest is an immediate vibrational representation of our energetic focus at that specific time.
 

Shift Gears| Focus on Self

Human beings are always conversing and relating with, through and to life. We are always engaged in this dance of “Pace|Pace|Lead” with life. This eternal engaging of “Pace|Pace|Lead” manifests life through and within life physically.

 
What do we do when we are unable to manifest?
We are always manifesting.
Or rather what do we do when that which we are manifesting is not aligned with our core intentions?
 
So what does one do?
Where does one start when weeks, months and years have been invested and focused on that one project, one relationship, one work, one brand, one concept and one whatever it is?
 
 
Step Out| Pause | It will be “OK”

Check “What are you manifesting?” | Look for evidences of that which are being manifested right here right now.

Often times, over-focus on the destination leads us to being out of rapport with life.
 
Being out of rapport is not an end and certainly not a fatality. This is a potent time to learn, to gather self and harvest ripeness of self.
 
 

Start Here

What am I being called to create/experience/manifest right here right now?

Focus your energy on whatever you are being called to create/experience/manifest right here right now.

 

Center Yourself| Grounding

Give Space| Give Yourself Permission to be carried through this phase

 
 

Pace| Pace|Lead

As powerfully put forth by my sister and fellow companion on this journey of shifting and transforming,Pratibha Kujur

“If I can't manifest something better then let me focus on manifesting something different.

Keep doing something that pleases my heart till my desires take physical form.

Make the shift gradually.”

 
Often times, along this journey of ours, we will be asked to pause, to slow down and to Pace| Pace|Lead with life, for to move to the next level we will have to learn a higher level to Pace|Pace|Lead with life.
 
Keep being and doing until the heart shifts even if the doing and being has nothing to do with one's purpose. Each time, the day embraces the duskiness of the night, we will be taught of the interconnectedness of it all.
 
I hear myself and I see how important it is to hold such conversations as entrepreneurs.
 

This is no failure – it’s a dance of re-aligning our grooves, our moves, our swirls, our steps and our breaths, our beats, our giggles, our wiggles, our tears and our entirety with life
Along way, we will be called to un-learn, re-learn Pace|Pace|Lead with life.

 

Holding space for each of us
Holding space for the intensity in the sky
You will be back in no time
We will be back in no time
Keep believing even when "nothing is coming through"
Be the Dragon Slayer to any Resistance
Keep Breathing
 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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What if it really does not matter what you do but how you do whatever you do?

How will this change what you choose to do with your life?

What if your contribution to this world is not dependent upon discovering a new meditation technique or following a guru, but rather upon becoming present to your present and deeply appreciating yourself and the world as they are right now?

How will this affect your search for spiritual development?

 

What if the question is not why am I infrequently the person I want to be, but why do I so infrequently want to be the person I really am?

How will this change what you think you have to learn?

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What if the essence of who you were, who you are and who you will be, have always been enough?

How will this shift how you see, feel and hear about your past, present and future?

 

What if life is about balancing light, dark, pain, pleasure, death and birth with compassion, gentleness, kindness, openness and inclusiveness towards self, first and last?

How will this affect how you feel when you wake up every morning?

From 9th June to 19th June, I immersed myself with a wave of change makers,  Michael Hall, the Founder of The International Society of Neuro Semantics, along with trainers and coaches in the making from across the globe.

 

The reason why I landed where I landed, I owe it to “a shaken frightened unsure version of me in September 2015 ”, I had set an objective of being on the assist team to supporting emerging coaches in five years to come.

An objective that I had forgotten since and a life that I kept walking on, until March 2019, I went back to check the 2015 set objectives.

I smiled, no wonder, my entire life crumbled down, whatever I had constructed and built before September 2015 was washed away post September 2015. I was kicked out of my comfort space to own my self.

 

What was present in my space back in September 2015 that led to the materialization of my objectives?

What can I share that you may use in your own intentional objective setting?

 

Vulnerability, I was sore to my core, I was present to some of my deepest longings, needs, pains, wounds, fears, wants and desires. Beyond all, I was present to my callings, I heard my self. I saw my self. I experienced my self.

This was enough to catapult my life ahead.

 

Vulnerability is that space of being utterly honest towards self, there is no bullshitting, no shying away and no masking.  It is a deep place of power. A space of courage, for navigating in unknowingness is courageous, calling upon the whispers of the heart.

Magic happens when one sees oneself but also when one allows others to witness oneself. We move to a deep space of learning, growing, glowing and deepening of love.

 

This journey started with one question and here I am, open, raw,

walking into the unknowingness of the next.

Among all the questions that I have shared, I cannot choose which one moves me most and deepest. I am sitting with them and I invite to sit with them.

 

As you sit with them, may you gift yourself the gift of vulnerability, for unless you are broke open will your magik ooze within without.

 

May courage dwell in navigating the unknowingness of life

May faith lead each step in the unknowingness of life

May Love Usher within and without

 

Love from my heart to yours

 

Megha Venketasamy

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What we say to our daughters matters because it teaches them what to value.

“Language is the repository of our prejudices, our beliefs, and our assumptions.” ~ Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Our language imprints the world of our daughters and our sons and they use these imprints to navigate this world.

 Reflecting on the conversation that I had with an amazing 10 years old girl yesterday, she reminded me of the power of our words.

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Here is her happening

“One of her classmate, this 10 years old boy says that he loves and that now they are together. She added further that she understands none of this and for her, he is her friend. She wants to tell him that they are friends but she is hesitant for her intent is not to hurt him, so she has kept quiet for days now.”

 

I queried gently, “Do you know what is this love that he talks about? “

She replied “I have no clue about the love that my friend speaks of and I am afraid that he will be hurt  and disappointed if I tell him bluntly on his face that we are friends and play buddies.”

 

We drilled further for some minutes and what came up next was her fear of “hurting him for not liking him the way he likes her.”

 

Here is what I told her, holding myself as witness and reminding that I would not say less to any little girl and boy out there.

“You are not responsible for how others feel. You have every right to choose who to like and not like, who to welcome in your space or not. This is your birth right. Your job is not to worry about how others will feel if you do not join them in their ride. Your job is not to fulfill others’ expectations. Your job is to be honest with yourself and your heart, even if this may scare you and even if this may put people off. You are not responsible for how others feel in friendships, everyone has a right to visions, assumptions and ideas. You my precious one, you are called to live by your own. People will be more hurt in the end when you get tired carrying the masks of faking, they will not understand why you faked for so long. Truth is, in your attempt to please them, you faked.

So know that you are not responsible for how others feel, not even how your parents feel.

Your responsibility begins and ends with yourself. Your responsibility begins with what, why, where, who, when, and how you say, do and be.

This is all under your creative reach.

 

Just because someone felt hurt because of his/her unmet expectations, know that this does not make of you an unworthy person and/or bad human.

You do not have to invest energy in fixing how others feel.

Hold space for others to feel what they feel and allow yourself to feel what you feel, even when it is not comfortable.

As a girl, you have the right to choose who to allow in your space and not. When things do not sit properly with you, when your heart and your pinky feel otherwise, heed to yourself even if the whole world roars; heed to yourself and know that you are always led, guided, protected and deeply loved.

 

As a daughter of the world and a woman in rise, know that you are called to no more carry the burden to pleasing this world; you are called to release the drama of becoming something else for this world; you are called to play a role beyond this world’s expectations.

You have every right to it.”

 

For every Mother, Father,

Aunty, Uncle,

Sister, Brother,

 Grandmother, Grandfather,

Guardian, Teacher, Fellow Seers

Who will read these words,

I invite us to spread these words,

I invite us to ripple these words across the globe

 

Language is a legacy that we have been passing on from daughters to daughters since the time of time.

A word is more than just a word.

The intent, the intricate definitions, the beliefs and agreements of the words can either caged our daughters or teach them to soar.

What we say to our daughters matter, because it teaches them what to value.

Our daughters will be the partners of tomorrow

What kind of partnership do we want to plant?

What is our vision?

What is our intention?

Where do we stand amidst this?
What do we need to hear about ourselves, for ourselves?
Do we have the right to choose?
 

Much love from my heart to yours

 

Megha Venketasamy

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What Else....

Our beliefs and agreements know their way to hide deep within our subconscious, often covered under layers until one day, the Pandora box opens wide and there is no running away.

 

These past two months have been physically straining and challenging. My vitamin D hit bottom low once again (I was first diagnosed with this issue end 2016). This while the symptoms were more painful: slowed digestion, insomnia, lingering tiredness, gastric fire imbalance, loss of hair, deep sadness ,agony, joint pains, excess gas and I could go on this endlessly long list.

Image Source: Madhura Srinivas, September 2018,

Image Source: Madhura Srinivas, September 2018,

My choice was and is to stay focus on aligning my body with that which is natural. I have been sunbathing at every possible opportunity since. Much has shifted since, my energy is rising each day and so is my sense of groundedness.

 

These past two months I have walked myself through a process, I have called it the “What Else Process”

Here is what I did exactly and what was uncovered and revealed to me through this process.

 

I invite you to give yourself permission to walk through this process at your pace in your own time.

 

Step One - Questioning your answers

The more I sunbathed everywhere and I am still doing so, the more I noticed that people on this island (Mauritius), they shy away from the sun. I started questioning why do people do that?

Why do we run to a shady place instead of glazing in the sun?

 

Eventually I started questioning myself, “Why did I shy away from the sun?”

And I would journal my answers

Each time an answer popped in, I would journal it and I will ask “what else?” and I would move on until the next answer popped in.

Here are some of the answers

I don’t want to be sticky on my way to a meeting

I don’t want to be smelly sweaty on my way to a meeting

I will be dehydrated

I will end up with a headache

I don’t want to have a bad sun burn

I don’t want to feel physically hot

And the list went on until last week, an answer popped in and up to now, there has been no other answer beyond this answer

“I don’t want to become darker”

 

This answer hit me hard and I sat with it for days. “I don’t want to become darker.”

 

I called this my meta-answer, there is no answer beyond this one. This is the key that will lead me to something bigger.

This answer speaks of aversion, whatever it is that I was trying not to be and become.


 

Never underestimate the act of questioning one’s answers.

We are too often veiled by our agony that we do not understand that

“the problem is never the problem.”

 

But I did not stay here, I went deeper. I coached myself. You may choose to do same but I  gently suggest that you reach out to someone you trust, someone with whom you may an open heart conversation.

 

The depth of our conversation depends on our self opening.

 

Step Two - Association

How is “staying in the sun” connected to becoming darker?

I associate staying in the sun with becoming darker.

We are always associating one thing to another and this carries the power to shape our life in ways.

I was told and taught over and over again as a child, too much staying in the sun browns you and I ended up making this part of my reality and agreements.

 

I am inviting you to pause and start checking,

“What do I associate with whatever is happening in life right here right now?”

Our associations dictate experience.

 

Step 3 – What are the beliefs?

The most important part of what was uncovered for me. I asked myself what is above this agreement of “not wanting to become darker?”

Here is what unfolded for me:

Dark skin means ugliness.

 

This belief was cocooning in my subconscious for years.

For years, I have been vocal about whitening products. I am against all forms of skins whitening and hurting products and processes. I do not believe in changing one’s skin color to fit certain norms yet deep within my innerness, I been carrying this belief “dark is ugly”.

 

Step 4- Whose belief is this?

It belongs to my grandparents (may their soul rest in peace). My grandparent believed that dark was ugly and they spitted this belief to all their children and grandchildren.

A dark child is an unwanted child.

A dark child is not promised for a bright future.

A dark child will never be enough.

A dark child is an ugly child.

 

My parents, my uncles and aunties never supported such belief but somehow the fertile soil of my childhood absorbed it and this impacted hugely on my growing up as a child, a young woman and where I stand today.

 

Step 5: Re-claiming, Re-conciliating, Re-membering and Re-writing

In a process of uncovering whatever it is, the most crucial part is that of calling it back.

Re-claiming: I called back this belief and agreement about dark skin and skins of all shades. They are not mine. They are not my property. They do not align with my core values

 

Re-conciliating: It does not mean that I have to find others’ goodness in what they did but rather holding space for what I went through as a child, as an adolescent and a young woman owning to this belief and agreement.

This is the crucial phase, this is the phase where the human body calms down and the emotions rise with a grounded consciously aware intensity.

The one question to be asked here is , “What can learn and deepen my growth?”

 

Re-membering: Remembering one’s essence. Regardless of any situation, when one opens up to learning and growing, one moves closer to one’s essence, the untainted worthiness of being a human unconditionally regardless of the external standards.

 

Re-writing: carrying others’ beliefs within one’s space is heavy, burdening, crowing and poisioning.

The final step is to write one’s own beliefs.

“Beauty comes through shades and tones. I am one such beauty.”

 

Plant this belief within your fertile soil, then nurture it through days, weeks, months and years.

 

 I have simplified the process but you can always  give it a try. Here are the steps below:

Step One - Questioning your answers

Step Two - Association

Step 3 – What are the beliefs?

Step 4- Whose belief is this?

Step 5: Re-claiming, Re-conciliating, Re-membering and Re-writing

 

 

Please be kind and gentle towards yourself

Awareness is not always a rosy path

Things will be unveiled

Much will be uncovered

It will pain but it will heal

 

If these words resonate with you and if you want to understand more of whatever it is that I have walked myself through, please know that my doors and my heart are open, feel free to write to me @ megha.venketasamy@gmail.com

 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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Showing up for the Self

Sunday 28th April 2019 ushered the closure of 7 days of circling through and

within creativity, creating and creations.

I am contemplating that which is emerging for me, holding space, giving myself permission to walk this path.

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Hear my whispers:
Our blinkers do not allow us to see beyond the concepts of creativity, creating and creations. We are few to be present and aware that every second we are creating, every second we are using our energy to birth and to annihilate part of us and beyond. Creativity, creating and creations are multi-dimensional. The focus has long been external while in truth, this is an inward journey, a journey of learning to trust, a journey of honoring the beauty and ugly and a journey of sacredness.


The emergence of purpose-based enterprises is shifting the consumption landscape but we are to many to dwell in the drama of externalized audience.

As an entrepreneur, I know this ride to building an audience, analytics on my webpage, the number of responses on posting and the audience reached. I am familiar with this stride I have been there for long enough now.
 

Last night, walking myself through the debrief of this 7days journey, I asked
Will I buy my own services?
Will I allow myself to be coached by my self?
Will I step into my own facilitated journeys and just be?
What if no one shows up, will I keep up the pace and walk myself through this journey?
What opens for me and through me through whatever it is that is being created?
Am I embracing my enoughness?
Am I embracing my magnificence?
Am I humble enough to show up for myself regardless of all?

 
Hear my answers:
 

I will. I will walk myself through my own journeys, I will show up and witness myself in all my vulnerability and magnificence and while I do so, I will hold space for the sacredness in all.

It has been a long ride to be able to utter these words for and to my own self.

This belief and trust in creative leading and guidance from beyond self. When one moves to this phase, creativity becomes consciously grounded in sacredness.
I know I will have to keep walking my way back to this essence.


 

I invite each one of you to pause and question yourself and as you walk yourself through these questions, I invite to give yourself permission to feel whatever emerges.

What is my call of the hour?
Can I show up for my self regardless of what this world does?
Do I believe in that which I be?              
Do I believe in that which I create?
What if no one shows up, will I keep up the pace and walk myself through this journey?
 
The power within any creative space is that of believing in that which one gives birth to.
Do I believe in my creativity, creating and creations?


Whatever, however, whyever, whenever, whyever and whoever be the journey, what matters is showing for the self.
Showing up for the self whether the world shows up for the self or not, is the call of the hour.
Showing up for the self and contemplating the magnificence of one’s creations is the call of the hour.
Showing up for the self and swallowing the juiciness of one’s own creations is the call of the hour.
Showing up for the self and trusting in that which is being is the call of the hour.
Showing up for the self and believing in the essence of the self is the call of the hour

 

Much love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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“An emotion is your body’s reaction to your mind.” ~Eckart Tolle

If there’s one tiny act of ownership one can invest in, may it be that of owning one’s emotions regardless of the “what, how, what, why, when and when”.

The easy way through is that of holding someone responsible for however, whatever, whyever, whenever, wherever and whoever we feel. This is addictive, this is toxic and this is the peak of disempowerment and worst, this is self-victimizing. We have all been there; we all roll there from time to time.

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Most of us were never told and taught and many will never be taught and told that “what we feel is part and parcel of our internal experience. Everything we experience has it’s legitimate place within the matrix of our internal existence. This is us experiencing this world through our perceptual lenses, filtered, deleted, distorted, generalized, assumed and spiced up with our endless internal programs and topped up with our beliefs, agreements, memories, anchors, wounds, pains and trauma.”

 

Relationships regardless of their nature and appellation are the ideal playgrounds for the drama of victimization to be birthed, fed and nurtured. That said, we do not forego and / or condone the sickness of people who seem to have invested of their selves in intentionally hurting others at all levels.

 

The intent of this write up is to surface this facet “if we feel what we feel, it is an inside business. This inside business has it’s own mechanisms, rules, values, boundaries, agreements, memories, pains and wounds.”

Are you aware of your internal mechanisms?

What motivates you?

What repulses you?

What sickens you?

What inspires you?

What revolts you?

What are you seeking?

What is your language?

How do you create?

What do you believe in?

How do your beliefs fuel your life?

What do you hold yourself from saying?

 

Eckart Tolle once said “Make it a habit to ask yourself: What's going on inside me at this moment? That question will point you in the right direction. But don't analyze, just watch. Focus your attention within. Feel the energy of the emotion. If there is no emotion present, take your attention more deeply into the inner energy field of your body. It is the doorway into Being.”

 

We are the ones to unconsciously and /or consciously influence what, why, when, where, how and why we feel.

 

Here’s the truth, this world is of stimuli. We are the one who consciously and/or unconsciously choose to react and/or respond

Do we react to the external stimuli while holding others responsible for our reacting?

 

Here’s another truth, people understand us better when we speak in a language that we align best with.

Do we speak that language of alignment to our close ones?

 

Here’s another truth, just because we have shared something does not mean that now our loved ones and/or anyone understand us better now

Do we assume that our loved ones and/or people understand us now, only to be disillusioned later?

 

Here’s another truth, no one is responsible for how we feel, we consciously and / or unconsciously influence our experience. You may have been to your favorite restaurant several times, you may have been there when you were in your best state and also when you were sick or in a less of your best state, your experience may not have been the same, for there were so many unseen, unheard, unworded factors at play.

Do we hold others responsible for what, why, when, where, how and who we feel?

 

Where do we start?

This is the path of self discovery and growth.

For those of us who firmly believe in leaving this world a touch better, then start with ourselves.

Start this journey of expanding our perception on ourselves,

Start this journey of removing our blinkers

Start this journey of ownership

Ownership of the mess and gold in our lives

It takes one grounded conversation at a time to shift and transform

 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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“The limits of my language are the limits of my world.” Wiitgenstein (1922)

What one believes in, either limits one or moves one beyond. However, Whyever, Whenever, Wherever, Whoever, Whatever one believes in and acts from that belief, one is ongoingly shaping one’s world.
 
The mainstream spiritual fashion world coins this as “positivism and negativism”, as a coach and facilitator, I call it “the bewitching of self through language, yet the only way through is to stay within this world, uncover whatever it is and re-write from that space.”

I would lie if I were to say that I have always had an empowering, kind and gentle language towards myself and my world. I am still uncovering places within me in need of acknowledgment, embrace, healing and shifting. Over the years, I have been taught and I am still learning how my beliefs, my words, my language towards myself, my sense of power, others and this world keep impacting my sense of self.
 

I am honoring my born day on this 22nd of April and these last days have been intense, as I paused to question what one intentional word I want to use for the coming 12months. A word or words that will anchor me in grounded intentions, remind me of my choosen focus and lead me to stand grounded in a creative process instead of swirling the dance of the victimized one.

 

My words or rather my choosen phrase for the coming 12 months is:
“I pause to open and receive”


 
The choice of these words are symbolic for I have spent the last ten years running, walking, rushing, healing, speaking, vibrating, voicing and dancing the emergence of my self.
 
This weekend as I went through this simple process of questioning myself; remember it all starts with a simple question.

 
What emerged for me was, this need to open up and to receive. I purposefully choosed to roll it out in a phrase for my intent is to now use this phrase to ground myself in every action that I will engage in.
 
Words are not just words, they are part and parcel of our inner game and this inner game is mirrored externally.
 
I invite you to pause for the coming days and question yourself. If you were to consciously choose a word/words and/or phrase that will be used to strategically guide you for the coming months, what will these words be? Why these words?
Behind these words, what is the need?


 

My emerging need is that of balancing. To balance one’s life, there is this dance of giving and receiving that is to happen and to be able to receive, one has to pause to open, there is no receiving on the rush or on the run.


I call this the process of the  self, for the self is in truth a dynamic process of unfolding, releasing, birthing, decaying, dying and rebirthing.
And to truly receive, one has to believe in the process of being bestowed with wisdom and whatever it is, every single second.

 
May that which we are today usher
the strength, courage, power, love and wisdom to open us to receive from life.
May that which is ushered in our space reminds us of this one truth
"The self is a process in itself, there is no beginning and there is no end
The Self is a process that every Seer will go through".
 

Much love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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Re-Negotiating To Deepen The Seeds Of Choices

Ultimately, we are all seeking a better life, a happy life, a fulfilled life, a peaceful life, a balanced life and a successful life (regardless of how we all define these terms). Walking the path of our seeking is accompanied by act of choices.

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Any act of choosing ushers in the potential to shape this now and impact the future. By default change, shift and transform are part and parcel of any act of choosing. There is a fine line between “how consciously we choose" and  from what state we choose.”
 

We are often faced with what we may call “surface changes” which unfortunately are not sustained over the long term. Surface changes are fueled by brief if not medium-term moments of genuine motivation, inspiration and the real desire to further ahead.

 
Question: Where is the gap?
Answer: Our resistance to re-evaluating, re-aligning, re-thinking, re-emoting our relating to self, power, time, others and the world every time we choose, especially when choices are bound to impact in the near immediate future.

 
To deepen the seeds of our choices within, we are called to re-negotiate how we relate to our self, power, to time, to people and to the world.

 

What holds us humans, from re-negotiating is the fear of “not-knowing” that which awaits at the other hand, the mind screams “loss” while the psyche knows and understands that there is no gain without releasing that which has served its purpose and there is no furthering by holding on to what which pollutes one’s vision.
 
As a coach and a woman circle facilitator, I have been observing this cycle within my own self and with women that I am honored to journey with. This resistance to move further despite the awareness of what no more serves oneself, of that which is poisoning one’s life, of that which is hindering one’s progression.
 


There are endless paths to explore in expanding awareness of who one’s relating to self, to power, to time, to others and the world is the place to start.

 
Here is what I mean
 
Exploring beliefs about one’s perception, connecting, agreements, narratives, stories, identity, values, memories and imagination connected to self, one’s sense of power, time, others and the world.
Once we start this exploration journey, we are bound to re-negotiate our relating to each aspect of our life.

 
Where do we start?
Start with one tiny step.
 
No Change No shift No Transformation is made possible without re-negotiating one’s relating to self, power, time, others and the world.
 

 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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The Wandering Eyes impact Stability

These past five months, my body,heart, mind and energy have undergone profound changes through and along my journey of becoming a Hatha Yoga Teacher, an intent set many years back and buried and forgotten under endless passionate ideas.

What I have learned and still learning cannot be summed up nor even condensed into a brief sharing.

This morning soaked in a new space that I will be using for the coming months, I pause to question:

“How did I land here? Who am I right here right now? What could have been otherwise?”

The answer whooshes within, “Your intent played a key role in where you are today”

And I questioned, “Does the intent suffice on it’s own?”

And I heard, “Wherever you ALLOW your EYES to WANDER, that is, your FOCUS, know that this will IMPACT this NOW and MOLD the NEXT. Your STABILITY DANCES with and along your FOCUS.”

 

In yoga, focus matters, focus is foundational, focus is sacred and focus is grounding. And in yoga focus is on self and then transcending this self, there is no other than this self. As a yogi, one of my grounded shifts has been to witness how stability has a dance of its own with no clear constant yet impacted directly by one’s focus in this NOW. One’s focus calls to stability to adjust to the need of this now through even ASANA (posture) and every speck of BREATH.

 

Hear my whispers

Whatever one INTENDS to do, what matters most is one’s FOCUS. Most of us LOSE ENERGY TACKLING THINGS that take us OFF-TRACK our set PRIORITIES. Most of us are UNABLE to be fully PRESENT to this NOW. Most of us STRUGGLE to define PRIORITIES and CREATE SPACE for that which MATTERS MOST.

 

Any MOVE in LIFE is IMPACTED by our FOCUS, that is, where our EYES are allowed to WANDER.

 

There is no automatic wandering off of our focus, but rather at a deeper unconscious level, there are happenings, there are conversations, there are thoughts, there are beliefs and all these impact our focus.

The more the focus fidgets , the more one struggles to move towards one’s intent.

 

The reasons for this fidgeting are unknown unless one allows the space to explore same with a facilitator. This is where having an honest open heart grounded coaching conversation can guide one to uncover one’s dance of focus and stability.

 

THE WANDERING EYES IMPACT STABILITY.

There is no WRONGNESS or RIGHTNESS to WANDERING EYES but if ONES SEEKS  MOVE forward, then pausing to ASSESS the GAIN and LOSS in ENERGY and the SWAYS TOWARDS or AWAY from one’s INTENT is CRUCIAL.

 

Where is your focus right here right now?

What is your intent?

On a scale of 0-10, how align is your focus and intent?

 

Do these questions usher confusion?

Do these questions usher confusion?

CONFUSION announces QUESTIONING of WHAT we used to DO and BELIEVE.

This is exactly where ONE is CALLED to STAND if ONE SEEKS to SHIFT and TRANSFORM the STATUS QUO.

There is NO CONSTANT to STABILITY to life,

Yet  STABILITY is IMPACTED by FOCUS

CHOOSE to focus WISELY

Know that even SEEMINGLY SURFACE BLURRED FOCUS is yet  ANOTHER SHADE to FOCUSING


 

Love from my heart to yours

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Relationship, The Cauldron of Awareness

We have crafted and packaged relationships into sell-able commodities. Relationships are not the glamour pictures, happy journeys, adventures, laughter, chic clothes, joyful families, healthy humans and wishful thinking.

 Humans often feel disheartened, betrayed, left aside, used and depleted in relating with others and things do not get better in intimate relationships.

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We are always relating (that is, in perpetual communication) with one another whether we know it or not. The act of getting involved with someone, that is, choosing to be date someone, to marry someone, to partner with someone or live in with someone or however you choose to name it, comes with it’s share of two diametrically different worlds, different ways of communication, using words, emoting, different weights of the past for both individuals, different areas of interest and needs and the list is endless.

 

Just because the other has opened up and shared a few things, we easily assume that we know the other and we are many to believe that we can actually read the other’s mind and thoughts and even complete their sentences.

 

Here is where it gets interesting, 

We are many to have committed to fix the other, for unless until the other is fixed, we as a couple (or however you chose to name this relationship) will never truly exist. When the other does not level up to what we expected and needed, we blame, we try to fix and we blame again.

 

Relationship is the PLACE TO BE. For relationships regardless of their nature and their appellation, they carry the potentials to teach us something about ourselves. 

 

Blaming is the easy way, for blaming is the dance that externalizes and projects our yet-to-be acknowledged needs, desires, wants, discomforts, wounds, pains and trauma unto the other.

 

Blaming circumstances or people for our discontentment is addictive. We all do it from time to time.

 

It is easy to fall into this trap and it is also tempting to give in to that way of existing.

“I am miserable because my partner is like this or that, or my partner is unable to meet me on the same grounds. I am scared because my partner hits me.”

Yet blaming does not bring us the JOY or FREEDOM we seek.

 

For anyone who has been through some challenging instances, we can relate to this.

The blaming gives us temporary relief, even a feeling of power for the other is responsible for what we are going through and how we are feeling.

 

I am not veiling off from the fact that there are deeply sick humans out there, humans who will go to any extent to hurt others in the most unimaginable ways. But what I am stating here is rather, “where is each individual’s share of responsibility in relationships?” 

 

Owning our experience, owning our share in what has happened, what is happening to us and what is yet to happen to us can STING HARD and BAD.

 

Most often this ownership comes with this awareness of our sense of unworthiness, not-enoughness and much more.

 

Blaming keeps us trapped in victim consciousness because we are literally giving our power away to that person or thing. Blaming does not create the space for us to learn something about ourselves.

 

The power of grounded coaching proves to be purposeful and directed towards oneself.  

Transformation manifests only when one owns one’s power in creating one’s life.

 

Start with Ourselves. Start with focusing the energy and the intent on what we truly seek.

Start with questions

“How do I feel in this situation?

What needs are not being met?

Why do I hurt?

What do I believe about myself?

On a scale of 0-10, how healthy is this situation for me?

What is this relationship teaching me about myself?

Where is my share of responsibility?” 

  

So, what happens when we redirect our energy and reclaim our power with self-responsibility and a commitment to love?

What happens when we choose to focus on who we want to become rather than blaming another for who we are not or what we don't have?

 

We start making conscious choices, be it that of closing that relationship or shifting our communicating but most importantly, we start looking at whatever is showing up for us.

By so doing, we start this journey of healing and transforming the world through our conscious presence within intentionally loaded choices, lives and actions

Relationship is a work in progress and till the end, we have this opportunity to uncovering about ourselves, to unveiling the unacknowledged and thus to growing and shifting.

 

“And so she moves with a little more wisdom, a heart that is more open to love, and with a mind that welcomes deep healing.”- Yung Pueblo

 

Love from my heart to yours

 Megha Venketasamy

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Now is the Time

Now is the time to re-negociate Our Beigness as Women
 
Centuries of wounding has numbed our senses
Domination, separation, distortions,
Blindness, greed, Jealousy, Hatred
Name Calling, Name Erasing, Name Mis-using, Name Telling

 
For far too long, women have been taught and told that their worthiness is conditional and dependable on the roles that they play, on the emotions that they exhibit, on the solutions that they bring forth, on their service to this world, on how they choose to live their life.

©Megha Venketasamy November 2018

©Megha Venketasamy November 2018

Now is the time to question oneself
"Where is the wound?
What is seeking to be acknowledged?
What is my need?
To whom do I belong?
How do I heal?
How can I create space for healing to own it's rightful place?
How can I bring forth my life force and allow my creative flow to flow?
How can I contribute to my rooting as a woman?
What are the callings within?”
 
Now is the time for re-claiming, calling back whatever defines us as women
Now is the time to acknowledge individual and collective pains, wounds, traumas, stories and agreements.
Now is the time for face all that which that holds us back as women
 
Now is the time to ask these vital questions

“What does it mean to be a woman?
What do I believe about being a woman?
Who gave me those beliefs?”
 
Now is the time to cast and hold safe spaces for women so that they may show up to and for their selves, their stories, their journeys, their wounds, their trauma and their bodies.
Now is the time for acknowledgement, for the roots of any transformative and transmuting process rest in acknowledgement
 
 
Slowing down, Pausing, Acknowledging, Owning, Holding and Embracing
Are the needs of this Now
 
Now is the time to hold the mirror of life
Look within
Embrace the death of that which dis-serves us
That which causes suffering
That which is not the Truth
 
Now is the time to ask
What is the Truth?
The Ultimate Truth
What is it?
 
Now is the time to prepare the grounds for this descend
Am I taking time?
Am I honoring myself?
Am I forgiving myself?
Am I practicing radical self acceptance?
 
 
Now is the time to question
Where am I?
What is my seed of intent?
What do I wish to be unveiled to me?
 
Now is the time to hold oneself
What aspects of me need shedding?
What aspects of me long for growth?
What aspects of kicking to be freed?
What aspects of me are roaring to be held and acknowledged?
What aspects of me need love, intimacy, hearing, listening, a good cry and a good laugh?
What aspects of me need to illuminated, magnified, pulled open?
What aspects of you need to surface from the dark alleys of your subconscious and let free?
 
Now is the time to hear
That regardless of choices
We are being held and supported from within and beyond
Now is the time for women to walk within
Re-Claiming, Re-Conciliating, Re-Membering and Re-Writing  our Beingness as Women

 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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The Rise of Educated Women

There is River of Women in migration

A nation of Educated Women

Dancing between the manifest and the unmanifest,

Alchemizing the structures of this patriarchal system.

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The phrase “Educated Women” does not refer to women who have been schooled, who are schooled and who shall be schooled. Our formal education system is part and parcel of this patriarchal system, schooled women have not been taught, are not being taught and will not be taught this truth “we are all born within an oppressive system and as women, we carry within generational imprints of trauma as well as wisdom and our life is non-negotiable regardless of what we do and become.”

 

I say this and I stand as a witness for my own self and my years of having been schooled.

 

Educated Women are those women who at one point have heeded, are heeding and will heed to the beckoning within. Once they give in to their within, there is no turning back. Educated Women are those who feed their selves with the juiciness of their inner nectar, for within dwells centuries of wisdom and knowingness bestowed from generations of unseen, unheard and unfelt grandmothers.

 

Educated Women are re-negotiating women’s place in this world, their journey is lonesome. There are no accessories to their beigness, their presence shifts space. Educated Women understand that their power was never taken away from them and they have committed knowingly and unknowingly to this painful task of reclaiming the narratives, beliefs and agreements handed over to them.

 

Educated Women are summoning their inner medicines, they are returning to earth as the eternal womb. Their language oozes a simplicity that most of us struggle to grasp. Educated Women know that no woman’s life is negotiable and there is not a single woman who is not whole.

 

Educated Women’s colors disturb us, yet we are often lured by these very colors for they remind us of a truth that we all know within.

 

I pause and I bow down to the educated women today, I witness your rise and you inspire me, you evoke within me this call to beckon to my inner calling. Had it not been for the ripples of your silent waves, I would not be where I stand today!

 

I pause  and I  bow down to the schooled women and to those to be-schooled, know that you will face a turning point in your life, the entirety of whatever you have constructed and /or will construct, will crumble down, the choice will be yours. Either you rise to your own wisdom or you keep rebuild yourself from the crumbles of this system that has disserved you for long enough.

 

I pray for you schooled women and to be-schooled women, for I know within walks your Truth.

I pray for me, for I am part and parcel of this system and every day I witness my stride.

I pray for us, trusting that one day, we shall all rise as Educated Women in respect of all that is and all that will ever

 

Love from my heart to yours

 

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“Our emotions is never the “reality”, it is rather a sign of reality, a sign of the life that has been mapped.” – Michael Hall

Our emotions are signs that we have experienced something and out of this experience,  we have crafted a frame and/or many frames of references. If we are to crack that which we have crafted from our experience, then know that each emotion is appropriate, for each emotion in truth rises from our thoughts and maps of how we experienced life in a moment in time.

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Our emotions are just signals about the difference between what we believe in, expected and what is happening in the outside world. Our emotions are neither wrong or right, good or bad, moral or immoral.


Our emotions tell us a story of what we expected and we believe in and what is actually happening.


So our emotions have their rightful place, they tell us stories often unknown to us, stories of shame, guilt, not enough, blame.

If we are feeling fear – know that there are some fear thoughts creating it.

If we are feeling anger, know that there are some thoughts of anger generating that emotions but truth be, it is beyond that.


If we step into that game of hating, rejecting, judging our emotions, we are in truth denying ourselves of uncovering things that are seeking to be acknowledged – these could be beliefs, narratives, stories, memories, experiences and much more.

Consciously repressing our emotions, we are merely playing with our own self, unaware that our human body is far too intelligent. This body will register it all, remember it all and sooner or later, there will be an outbreak of sickness.

When we block our way to registering what we feel, how we feel and face our emotions, we are also killing our passion, love, joy, fun , playfulness and openness.


No emotions are bad but if they stay for long lurking within and emerging unpredictably, then I will highly suggest that we give ourselves time, space and patience to explore.


Here to some questions that you can use as you pause this week onwards, I invite you to think of a current or past situation (which is still very much present in your life) that still triggers emotions that you struggle to release, let go of or delete.


1. What do you feel about this situation? (by giving a name to your feeling, you are in truth facing your emotion)

2. Have you ever felt like this before

3. What does it to you that you are feeling this emotion?

4. How do you experience this emotion?

5. What is it like to feel this emotion in your body?

6. Where do you feel this emotion?

7. What intentions drive this emotion? (There are always intentions under operations, intentions that we are unaware of. It can be that you are unconsciously trying to protect yourself- those of us who do inner critics sessions have witnessed that which has shown up)

8. What thoughts are in the back of your mind when you are having this emotion? (The thoughts , self-talks – they support, create, fuel and nurture that emotion- so we invite you to pause and listen to your self-talks)

9. How does this emotion affect your sense of self? (Your sense of self is knowing that what you feel belong to you, this is your and your experience and your mapping of life. But for most of us in our winging to control it all, we throw it all on others)


These questions are purposeful but at times, they work best when in conversation with a facilitator, someone who will stand by as you explore the matrix of your existence.


I will love to hear from you, your experience and most importantly, “what have these questions triggered for you?”

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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The Flock of Goddesses and the Feminine

I witness the rise of the words Goddess, the Feminine

These are current trendy words

Full famed in glory

I DEEPLY WONDER ABOUT OUR INTENT AND UNDERSTANDING OF THE ENERGETIC

PRESENCE OF THIS INCLUSIVE PART OF EVERY BEING ON EARTH

 

These days I pause to question to narratives, the beliefs, the meanings and identifications of the words “Goddess and Feminine” by and through this world

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I know little

Yet there is this depth to me that oozes and whispers

Life has been my teacher for years

As long as I remember, I have been soaking in my reflectiveness

The day, I consciously committed to connect to my essence

That day onwards, this life within has been leading

I am not yet there fully

I do not always understand it all

I do not always listen to my self

MY VOICE, MY INTUITIVENESS, MY GODDESS WITHIN, MY FEMININE

CALL IT WHATEVER YOU FEEL LIKE, THE TERMS ARE ENDLESS

 

But what I know is that

I AM NOT DISSOCIATE FROM THIS ENERGY

IT WAS NEVER TAKEN AWAY FROM ME

BUT I WAS VEILED FROM MY TRUTH

 

I know little

BUT I KNOW THAT ANY ACT OF EXTERNAL ADORATION SERVES LITTLE

IF I DO NOT OUTPOUR SAME UNTO ME

 

This energy that some are calling Goddess or Feminine Power

Is ever present in every human being

There is no need to clothes or accessories to grant access to HER

There is absolute no need to any external practices to lead to HER

She is the One who leads

 

WHEN SHE BECKONS

SHE IS THE ONE TO LEAD WITHIN

SHE INCLUDES IT ALL

THE COMFORT AND THE DISCOMFORT

THE LIGHT AND THE DARK

 

This is where many of us are failing

This is not just Kali rising

This is way beyond

This is our rising

And for our rising to rise

There is no need for external interference

No teacher can be our intermediate

FOR THIS IS A DANCE OF

THE MANIFEST AND THE UNMANIFEST

THE SEER AND SEEN

 

This is ESSENCE of that INCLUSIVENESS, DESTRUCTIVE, NURTURING, BIRTHING, DECAYING, DEADENING, RELEASING, SURRENDERING, MATING, EROTIC, PULSATING, VIBRANT, PUNGENT, ALIVE, DEATH , BIRTH, words will not suffice to say it all.

 

 

While I witness ADORATION of GODDESSES

I pause and smile

I query and question

“CAN I ADORN AND ADORE MY OWN SELF WITHOUT

 QUESTIONING AND DOUBTING MY WORTHINESS REGARDLESS OF ALL?”

 

My fellow sisters calling themselves goddesses

I pause and I bow in veneration

I whisper a prayer

MAY WE AWAKEN TO OUR ESSENCE

 

For calling oneself a Goddess will not suffice,

This is not a game of calling or faking till we make it

This is walk of the fierce humble one

To be stripped off,

Ripped apart

Bleed till death

 

THERE IS NO ONE ON EARTH WHO CAN DEFINE AND BRIDGE OUR CONNECTION WITH THE ONE WE CALL GODDESS OR FEMININE OR INTUITIVENESS

 

This walk is within

I witness how people call her Goddess, feminine

Whatever whoever she is

I know that I am not dissociate from her

Every since I committed to go deeper within

To own my narratives, stories, beliefs

But most importantly to reclaim it all

To remember and re-member my wholeness

 

THE GODDESS WITHIN TEACHES ME THIS

“FOR EVERY EXTERNAL ADORNMENT, LET IT BE FUELED BY AND THROUGH GROUNDED INTERNAL ACTS OF REMEMBERING, BEIGNESS, PRESENCE, INCLUSIVENESS, HONORING

IT IS ME WITHIN AND WITHOUT

 

I SEEK NO OFFERINGS FROM YOU

REMEMEBER

I AM THE ONE TO GIVE

I AM THE ONE WHO CAN SNATCH IT ALL WITHIN SECONDS

 

REMEMBER

YOU WILL NEVER FIND ME WITHOUT IF YOU CANNOT SEE, HEAR AND FEEL ME WITHIN”

 

May we awaken to question the intent, the beliefs, the meanings, the narratives, the identifications, the references, the connections, the links when we utter the words “Goddess and Feminine”

 

Much love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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Women, Your sickness is of a different kind!

“A woman who is starved for her real soul-life may look “cleaned up and combed” on the outside, but on the inside she is filled with dozens of pleading hands and mouths”.

- Clarissa Este Pinkola

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To women who write to me , whispering that “I am sick”

KNOW that YOU are NOT SICK.

WE do NOT DENY that YOU are SUFFERING. WE ACKNOWLEDGE the PHYSICAL , MENTAL, EMOTIONAL and PSYCHIC PAINS that YOU ARE going THROUGH

Your SICKNESS is of a DIFFERENT KIND.  You have DRIED YOURSELF up from YEARS of NOT LISTENING to YOURSELF. Your INTERNAL RIVER is POLLUTED with taints that are UNNATURAL to YOU.

 

YOU are NOT to be BLAMED for YOU are BORN in a WORLD that

MOCKS your CURIOSITY calling it SPOOKY

YOU are NOT to be BLAMED for YOU are BORN in a WORLD that

RIDICULES your INTUITIVENESS calling it MENTAL

YOU are NOT to be BLAMED for YOU are BORN in a WORLD that

INVESTS in SHUNNING YOU from your TRUTH

YOU are NOT to be BLAMED for YOU are BORN in a WORLD that

NORMALIZES VIOLENCE for you.

 

YOU are NOT SICK. YOU are at a TURNING POINT where YOU can either

GO HOME TO YOURSELF or let this WORLD NIBBLE over whatever is left of YOU.

YOU are NOT SICK. Within CRY A DOZENS

OF HUNGRY MOUTHS AND HANDS, WAITING for you to TEND TO YOUR SELF.

YOU are NOT SICK. YOU are on the PATH that many WOMEN BEFORE  THREADED ON,

When the WISE ONE within BECKONS

A PATH OPENS

A PATH that will ASK of YOU TO

TEND to your INNER FIELDS

UPROOT the WEEDS

OPEN the GATES of your INNER WATERS

FLOOD the RIVERS

WASH AWAY the poisonous TAINTS

NURTURE your fertile SOILS

 

KNOW that there is not a single SICKNESS that your BODY TEMPLE cannot CURE.

The CHOICE is YOURS, either YOU WALK home TO YOURSELF or YOU can consciously LET this WORLD NIBBLE over whatever is left of YOU

KNOW that there is NO RUNNING OUTWARDS this while,

THE PATH IS INWARDS

THE DESCEND IS WITHIN

THERE IS A RIVER OF WOMEN WAITING FOR YOU WITHIN

 

May You chose

To reclaim

Your stories,

Your beliefs

Your agreements

Your bleeding

Your Body

Your Psyche

 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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Becoming Conscious Recipient

We live in a world with mainstream spirituality fashion. As much I as own the essence of these words, I also see beyond it. We follow trends and “bless this situation” is a phrase often used in a way to stop you from engaging emotionally with that which has happened.

As a facilitator and fellow , I am witness to how this phrase “Bless this situation”, in truth suffocates the flow of opening for humans who are involved in any type of situations, especially conflicting ones. When we ask of ourselves or of others to bless this situation (though the intention could well be grounded), without pausing to ask what is “showing up” through this situation, we are in truth denying ourselves and others from receiving vital information for growth.

Then we better not be surprised that such situations repeat and in the facilitation works, we will coin this “patterns” or “dance of the shadows”, such terms are endless.

Next time, you are rushing to utter this phrase, pause and ask yourself,

“Is this the one “fix-it” way to move over it quick? Am I denying myself of my humanness from feeling whatever it is churning and brewing within? Do I actually believe in this phrase or am I just following a trend? What if I chose to look at myself for once, what difference will it make to myself? What if I chose to listen to the pain for once, what can I learn?”

Know that there is no quick fix-it, even if we chose to utter this phrase, “bless this situation”, sooner or later, life will kick hard enough till we pause to look at ourselves and at that which is seeking to be acknowledged, heard, seen, felt and embraced.

This compassionate life keeps kicking until we move to from victimship to creatorship.

I believe the way to bless any situation, especially conflicting ones, is to pause and own one’s stance within and ask these questions:

What is showing for me in this situation?

What is this feeling that I am experiencing?

Where do I feel?

What is happening?

What symbols do I attach to what which has happened and still happening?

What parts of me have been brought up to light, parts that I was not aware of?

What emotions are emerging?

What are the triggers?

What are the self-talks going on?

Can I gift myself space to find the strength to walk my way through this phase?

What need is seeking to fulfilled?

How can I best support myself in supporting this need?

 

We BLESS any situation when we BECOME a CONSCIOUS RECIPIENT to whatever this situation has REVEALED, UNCOVERED and GIFTED us whether we are COMFORTABLE with it or NOT.

BECOMING a CONSCIOUS RECIPIENT asks of us to GIVE ourselves PERMISSION and SAFE SPACE to WALK THROUGH that which is EMERGING. And WE ARE ALWAYS RECEIVING WHETHER WE ARE AWARE OF IT OR NOT.

When RECEPTIVENESS moves to a CONSCIOUS level, then it BROADENS our VISION and GROWTH becomes an INEVITABLE outcome. It automatically MOVES us FROM a space of HURTING to a space of BECOMING AWARE. In no way, I am condoning that which has happened, we are humans and at times, things happen and we hurt.

As we open up to receive information about ourselves, then it is no more about what others have done to us or an issue of trusting others but rather it becomes an ongoing pacing within where we learn to trust what is showing up for us, to us through us.

 

Let’s no more to bless any situation believing it will just mend itself, more than ever we are being called to pause and ask ourselves what shadow part of us is emerging and how do we learn to hold space for this shadow without shunning away.

May we become aware of such trends.

May we choose consciously for ourselves

May we choose a step closer to our awareness

Whatever be our choice, may we be bold enough to question our choices

May we grow be become conscious recipient to life that constantly pour through us.

 

Love from my heart to yours

 

Megha Venketasamy

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New Year Resolutions, they do not work!

Happy, Joyous, Blessed and Blissful 2019! 
May your all needs be met and may all your heartful desires come true.

It is a time of the year when we start thinking of and about setting New Year Resolutions with the intention to create a better life for us.

New Year Resolutions do not work for most of us, for they come from a space of "there is something wrong about me, there is this not-enoughness about me, so let me fix me."

 

Our state matters most, when we seek from a state of undeserving, not-enough and scarcity, chances that we struggle are high. When we seek from that state of believing that "I must be fixed", then chances that we are unable to embrace the gifts of life are high.

That said, by all means, let's have goals and objectives, set intentions but while we are out there, know that we are perfect, we are enough the way we are.


We may not be at ease with how our life has been on roll for years, so pause and know that we did our best even if at times doing our best meant hurting ourselves with that which no more served us.


For most of us, embracing this truth that "we are good enough, we are deserving and we are perfect" is to be the one grounded focus for this year onwards. For truth be, we can only receive as much as we believe in our worth.
 

The game that we play in our outside world, in terms of "behaviors, actions, activities, gestures, relationships, cultural roles, rituals, ceremonies and much more" whisper about the game that we  play in our inside world in terms of "thinking, valuing, imaging, feelings, emotions, appreciating and much more. This is the dance of within without and we are always creating our experiences to receive and give, whether we believe in it or not and whether we are aware of it or not.


 

I write these words and I am present to the transformation that manifested in my life the day that I started embracing my worthiness, my deservingness and my enoughness. It is an ongoing walk and I keep walking every day.


This embrace at times asks of guidance, support and help from facilitators and close ones.
 

May each one of us allow ourselves space to reach out for support and help this year for we deserve it beyond all. 


While we set our goals and intentions, may we give our selves space and time to become clear on "why" we want whatever it is. The bigger the "why", the easier the "how" show up.

Whatever it is that you have on your list, please pause ask your these questions:

Why do I want "whatever it is"?
What need am I trying to nurture through "whatever it is"?
What difference will it make to my life?
Why is this "whatever it is" important to me and for me?

 

My deepest prayers for each one of us

"May we know that we are enough and perfect the way we are. May we create and evolve from that state of perfection.May we open up to receive as much as we give, for abundance dances in balance. May we be and May 2019 be a year of transformation and love."

 


Love from my heart to yours

Megha Venketasamy

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