A Woman’s Body - A Contested Terrain

What is beauty? Do I look beautiful? What can I do to look like her? What do they think of my looks? These are some of the questions that I believe have plagued the minds of most of us as teenagers, young and aging women on countless occasions.

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Winding down through the intensity of last Saturday’s women's circle as we swirled through “beauty and beautiful”.

“Mirror Mirror on the wall, tell me what is beautiful? Who is beautiful?

Am I beautiful? What is about me that makes me beautiful?”

 

None of us, women present could specifically defined “beauty and beautiful” but still it was and it is easy to name, call, shame and point “unbeauty, unbeautiful”.

 

The notion of beauty , beautiful and attractiveness is synonymous with one’s body image; how we view ourselves and how we think other people think of us in terms of looks or appearance. As a society, I believe we have undermined, if not looked down patriarchy’s role in influencing body image. Patriarchy strives to exercise control by defining what beauty is, controlling the mobility of women, exerting violence and constructing social norms that impact on women’s lived experiences.

 

“The female body is a cultural artefact defined and redefined over time in response to broad cultural and historical transformations. Historically, the body has taken on a tubular and slender form in eras in which the female mind has become more politically, economically and socially independent. One need only reflect upon the popular image of the 1920s flapper and the 1970s fashion models to observe the validity of such an assertion” – Hesse-Biber, Howling, Leavy and Lovejoy (2004).

 

Women’s bodies are not neutral entities, there are so many external factors that act upon them and eventually dictate the way of life of women. A woman’s body has come to be recognized as a contested terrain in contemporary societies, where battles for control are. The war on women’s bodies ranges from acts of extreme violence to bills targeting ‘indecent dressing’ to attacks on women wearing mini-skirts. Along with being bombarded by messages about their bodies on a daily basis, women live in fear of violence and this is a strategy to control women’s ability to think, feel, move freely and act independently. The new age spiritual wave that focuses on internal beauty while shaming physical adornment carries the same patriarchal imprints.

 

The struggle for independence and liberation for women has not been easy, especially due to the external forces acting on the female body. Society has always used direct and indirect levers to control women’s bodies in one way or the other. So even the greater equality of opportunity for women in recent times has resulted in a cultural demand for women to be thin – political, economic and social gains have coincided with increasing pressure to lose weight. A woman who climbs the corporate ladder is stereotypically expected to look a certain way so even ‘liberated’ women still end up having to conform to a certain ideal. Someone has to have some kind of control over it.

 

As the stories emerge and the narratives roar, it pains to face that that which we have believed to be unbeauty and unbeautiful about our selves and others, were nothing than just imposed social constructs. There is no such constant as beauty and beautiful and there can never be a defined spectrum to beauty and beautiful. Most of us are drowning deep, gasping to reach that beauty, as defined by the system that we live in. I stay present to this awareness daily, embracing one part at a time, one disconnect of mine.

 

To women who will read me, your relationship with your body, your sex, sexuality and intimacy did not messed up overnight, there are beliefs, agreements and values poisoning your inner fertile soil.

To men who will read me, I pause and I wonder where are you in all this? What has been imposed? What is it that makes you feel beautiful? How bad do you pain?

 

This reclamation can be a really uncomfortable edge for most of us, as we are forced out of old ways of thinking about and seeing ourselves, and into the unknown territories of new, richer potentials of being.

 

Love from my heart to yours

Megha

 

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What if our privileges could birth inclusiveness?

"My name is Meghanaiyegee Venketasamy born and raised in a family of tamil speakers. This ancestral inheritance privileges me over others. I am tagged “colored woman” and this tag privileges me over other women. I have been to school, to university and have been part of international fellowships – this parcours privileges me over other women. I am part of local,regional and international networks and this belongingness privileges me over other women."

I have privileges, some born with and others I have acquired. You have privileges, we have privileges, some born with and others acquired.


Privilege is defined here as a special advantage, immunity, permission, right, or benefit granted to or enjoyed by an individual, class, or caste. We all have privileges, be it financial resources, acquired knowledge, linguistics inheritance, community belongingness.

 

Privilege is when we think something is not a problem, because it is not a problem to us personally.

My conversation will discomfort and this is my grounded intent.

People of my community will rather have me speak to them than having to listen to a woman unlike me. The pieces of stamped paper that I hold grant me access to stages and by default, men and women will rather honor me than some other woman they tag as “disqualified by default”. My skin color, my hair and my name give me access to spaces in this world, where I am embraced and welcomed. And I am also aware of spaces and instances where I have been asked to and I will be asked to dim my self for my difference is not welcomed.

 This pattern is ever present. Most of us are either not aware of this pattern or we are purposefully choosing to act blind. I see amazing women and men leading campaigns and teaching but when I pause to look at their team, at the structure of their work and at the language in use, it is strikingly disturbing to note the lack of inclusiveness in terms of colors, words, stories, men and women.

My legitimacy as a woman facilitating and leading other women is often questioned and this is linked to the coloredness of my skin. Nonetheless I am lucky to be colored for my black sisters’ paths are no easy sway compared to mine. The ever present supremacy of one category of humans over another is a dis-ease spread across the globe. And if feminism is about including then we as feminists can no more afford to play such a disconnected game. Ignoring this dis-ease does not make space for healing.

 

It is painful and hurtful to question our self whether despite our grounded good intentions, we have not been including. I am on that path and every day I allow myself to become present to how I can include voices, ripples, rhythms, rhymes, stories, wisdom, knowledge and words of women and men from different instances and spaces through the works that I do.

 

Are you aware that you have privileges?
What are your privileges?
How can you tap into your privileges to create space for inclusiveness?
How can you use your privileges to catapult this world to the next level of awareness, consciousness and connectedness?

 
My journey as a woman facilitator through the She Stands Tall Project grounds me through this purpose. As I allow myself to stand tall in my ever changing beigness, I also own responsibility for using my privileges to embrace those who look, sound, speak, see, hear, feel and experience unlike me. This is Power.

In one month, Mauritius will be embracing 28 women from across the globe including Mauritian sisters, for the 2nd Biennial Conference of The She Stands Tall Project, a one of it’s kind conference where the space will witness and birthing of a container holding the likeliness and unlikeliness of each present.
 

May we move into awareness of our privileges and may this awareness support us
to include us, you and me.

 

Love from my heart to yours
 
Megha Venketasamy

PS: for more details on regarding the conference, please write to us on shestandstallproject@gmail.com  and megha.venketasamy@gmail.com

 

 

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Conscious Men...

Saturday 21st July, we held our first « menstruation » circle guiding women through their inner navigation system, as we moved to the closure of our circle, the words emerged and they whispered “Conscious men”. These words stayed with me all through till this morning as my own descend led me to that which I am about to whisper back.

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Yes, women, we are many to have a hard time to say, to state, to acknowledge, to honor and to embrace the fact that there are “conscious men” out there. Yes, women, we have been rising from our demeaning states and still walking through our woundedness and most of the time we speak from that state of woundedness. Yes, it is not easy. It still hurts and we have every right to be angry, mad and to be paining.

 

But this will not change the truth that there are “conscious men” rising and doing their inner works.

 

Maybe it is time for us to change the way we see, hear, feel, experience and define consciousness and conscious men.

 

Consciousness has more to do with waking up to owning one’s stories. Consciousness is about owning responsibility for how we feel, why we feel it and what triggers us. Consciousness is being aware of what we put out in the world. Consciousness is grounded in intentions.

 

There are conscious men rising and we have to acknowledge this truth – “Patriarchy has not done less harm to and unto men. Our men were taught and are still being taught to shut off from their inner navigation system.”

Do NOT think it is easy for me to say this. It is an uneasy stride on my keyboard right here right now. But still, I chose to whisper for I see, hear and feel my fears, my stories, my woundedness and I honor them. I am witness to my struggle through my stride, still I chose to whisper for this is my commitment to consciousness.

We, WOMEN are DESPERATELY TRYING to HEAL our SELVES, so ARE MEN.

Conscious men are not meant to be like conscious women. We were designed, crafted and synergized to complement each other.

 

Please do not go out in the world expecting to meet men who will complete your sentences like your sisters do; or bring you your favorite food like your sisters do ; or even have the kind of conversation that blows your mind.

I am not saying it is not possible but there is distorted romanticism – built around conscious men – that veils us to this truth that conscious men are like us; they have been torn apart, they have lost it all and they are healing their way through, they are learning to allow their selves to be rewired and this is no easy path.

Conscious men will go and hide at times, like we do. Conscious men will even try hard to have outer dimensional conversations like we do. Conscious men will screw it all at times like we do. Conscious men are not less or better than us, they are merely mirrors of that which women seek.

 

I say this for everyday, I witness myself going through my cycles and I often pause to acknowledge and honor not just myself but all connected directly and indirectly to and through me, women and men.

As I close off, I must confess that this my SHIFTIEST 2018 lesson so far. I stay open and I am choosing to allow myself to learn from my self, my stories, from your self, your stories, from our selves and our stories.

 

Love from my heart to yours.

Megha Venketasamy

 

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The intent of bringing women in circles

This World shivers when women gather; This World retaliates when women gather; This World mocks when women gather; This World curses when women gather; This World discomforts at the gathering of women.

Women discomforts at the gathering of women.

What is about women gathering that creates so much fuss?

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Any act of bringing people together in a moment in time grounded in intentions, carries the potentials to break through. Such acts serve the path of any individual on his/her way to grow a touch more aware of his/her beliefs, stories, discomforts, patterns and selves. This is what we term as CONSCIOUS AWARENESS. When one BECOMES CONSCIOUSLY AWARE, then one STARTS LIVING CONSCIOUSLY and CONSCIOUS LIVING IS CONNECTED TO CONSCIOUS CHOICES. This act SHATTERS the TENTACLES of our PATRIARCHAL SYSTEM. We FRAME these instances as SHIFTING and TRANSFORMING.

 

WOMEN WITHIN WOMEN CIRCLES

At the core of bringing women in circles lies the intention of activating the innate connectedness that women have shared from the beginning of time. There is nothing new to women journeying in circles – our great grandmothers did it and ancient communities knew it. The patriarchal system that we live in has invested energy, time and fears in building women against one another – shaming, naming, slutting, belittling – you name it.

 

Women Circles create safe spaces to allow women to move inwards to see, feel, hear and listen to their stories, beliefs, values, wounds, woundedness, connectedness, disconnectedness, relationships, life and world. Women Circles teach women to embrace both their light and shadow selves.

 

Women Circles teach women to ask this one vital question “Where is the soul?”

 

This world shivers when women gather; This world retaliates when women gather; This world mocks when women gather; This world curses when women gather; This world discomforts at the gathering of women.

So Be it!

 

Women Circles move women in spaces to reclaim their stories and cast spells unto their selves so that they rise to reconciliate with this world. This is the power of circles, this is the power of words, this is the power of consciously crafting and sealing agreements with and within our selves and the external world.

 

Our world carries undermining, harmful and belittling agreements for and against women, colored people, indigenous people and minority groups.

 

Women have a key role to play in reclaiming, reconciliation and peace building. Yet this process cannot happen unless women stand within and through their stories and start their inner reclaiming, reconciliation and peace building. The activist that I am, have chosen to invest of my self, my time and my resources in bringing women in circles.

 

When women come together, the space will by default align itself to make shifts and transformations possible. Intention matters and so does the one who facilitates.

 

We need structures, strategists, scientists, economists, politicians, healers, mid-wives, artists, creators, rainmakers and peacemakers to shift this world. But we also need women who will vulnerably show up and by so doing hold the mirror for other women to start their inward descend.

 

More than ever, we need grounded conversations that allow women, men and children to open up to their selves.

I look forward to hearing from you, to reading you and to co-creating in rippling whispers about the "inner descend". 

Megha Venketasamy

Certified Women Circle Facilitator, The She Stands Tall Project

 

 

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Relationship is the place of growth

My sister reminded me of yesterday, 17th June - my mind, heart, my soul and my entirety are elsewhere.

I got religiously married on 17th June 2007. Two months prior to that date, I cried a lot, my being was saying "NO". My insights kept whispering that I was about to "put myself into some thing less". But every one whispered "that's how girls feel-just scared, you will be fine."

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I would bond myself to a man who was not and is not bad but his own issues from his past were far beyond his self. And I would end up providing for us in all the sense as long as that relationship lasted.

Three years through this marriage, all the signs and symptoms would speak of wrongness and dis-ease and it would take me nine months, early January 2011 to figure out that I was in an abusive relationship. Ongoing instances of daily abuses ever present in my life at that time. Any form of abuse that does not move to the physical state is hard to detect, I was on that path.

 

I would brave the tides, believing we could heal our way through. Endless times, I choosed to believe and trust these words “things will be better and I will change” and all through, my instinct would scream “Run away! Go away!” To the external world, we were the happiest couple, warm and welcoming hosts but no one knew what was happening behind closed doors – my fears, my doubts, my archedness, my hopelessness, my tiredness and his demons.

 

It would take me one year to build my internal muscles and walk my way out of this relationship. In 2012, I paved my way out and I kept quiet all through, I hardly spoke about what I went through and what I was going through for my safely became my priority. I knew before hand that I should not expect support from my family. But much to my dismay, I was nurtured and supported by my siblings like none and I am still.

 

My mother’s delusions got shattered and she is yet to move on but my love for my self and her, grounded me in my choices and I keep going for I suddenly became my priority.

My ex-husband slashed back and he found the easiest way, he crafted stories about me. Still I kept quiet because my safety became my priority.

 

I choosed to write about this phase of my life for I am utterly and deeply grateful for what I went through. I do not wish anyone to go through what I went through, yet I will not bargain any part of my path. So hear my whispers now:

 

1. We attract that which we are at any given moment in time

I was a giver, I had no notion of boundaries and I ended up attracting my perfect match at that moment in time.

It feels almost sadist to say this but this is how this world works, whether we believe in it or not. Our wounds, our past, our inner dis-ease play a huge role in attracting that which carry the potentials to either break us down or break us through.

He needed to be fed and I was willingly willing to feed ongoingly . So I fed him in all the sense for three years until I started waking up gradually.

Waking up, asked of me to look into my own wounds. When I woke up, I would then spend months looking at my own father's wounds and wounds that I had connected to men from the beginning of my childhood.

So this phase of my life taught me and is still teaching me to peep into my self before blaming the world.

 

2. Sense of Safety

Most of us, women and men grow up in unsafe homes, abuse has become part and parcel of our lives. With normalization of abuse, we end up with a distorted sense of safety, we teach ourselves to navigate through unsafeness. I was there. I grew up in an unsafe home and I ended up in an unsafe space when I got married. I taught myself to navigate through for this is what I saw my mother doing. But it is wrong!

Safety is safety and there is no disguise or distortedness to sense of safely. Our guts know it, our intuitiveness know it. Run away when it is UNSAFE.

 

3. No one change except for his/her self

From the beginning of any relationship, if we stay open enough, we are given glimpses, signs and symptoms of what we do not align with with the other person. Still many of us choose the naïve way, we choose to stay. We stay believing that the significant other will change for the sake of this relationship.

No one changes unless he or she has had a shift within and provided this shift has brought awareness to his or her self.  While we may choose to stay despite mis-alignment of core beliefs,values and lack of safety, we better not blame the other person when things get heated up.

They showed their true colors from the very beginning but we decided to believe in them changing over time.  Change is a personal journey, change comes through awakening. No matter how we feel for others, we have to come to understand that each one of us is to walk his/her path and we cannot save our loves ones, regardless of the depth of our feelings.

 

4. The gap that we try to fill in when we get into relationships

The entirety of our lives will be spent in relationships with us trying to fulfill a gap that we carry within.  What are you trying to ease and feed through relationships?

Are you seeking validation? Fear of abandonment or rejection?

Do you believe that someone else is responsible for your happiness?

Is your feeling of unworthiness making you cling to something without you, even if that thing is toxic?

Do you feel worthy when you serve others in relationship? Is this how you derive your sense of worthiness?

 

 

Relationship is the place of growth. Hurt, love, pain, gain, win, loss, warmth, cold, they all play a key role in unleashing our wounds and moving us closer to our truest self.

No relationship is and will ever be devoid of triggers, pains, tears and confusions. But there are some basics; safety and intuitiveness remain at the core. And one’s intuitiveness is the compass, come what may, heed to that inner voice. Our intuitiveness hears, sees and feels it all.

RUN WHEN YOUR INTUITIVENESS ROARS - JUST RUN, A DOOR WILL OPEN.

 

May your relationships serve the purpose of opening you up and May you allow yourself to heal

 

Much love and Blessings

 

 

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That which conspires when we take a step towards our fullest self

My decision to fly to Bangalore whooshed in early March 2018, my entirety was kicking, churning and brewing. I listened. I understood that I had to be India as I neared my birthday. And I listened.

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Why do I make this conscious choice to listen to my body?

What difference does it bring to my life to listening to my body?

How does such a choice mold shape life?

What is the impact through and unto the wheel of my life?

Over the years, both my ongoing training as a meta-coach and on women spirituality have taught me and are still teaching me the way to grounding back into my body. The intelligence that my body temple hosts cannot be described but rather lived, experienced and ultimately transcended. I journey with fellows through the same path that I choose to journey with my self.

I have learned and I am still learning how my mind-body-heart-soul-energetic-emotion system works, learns and transforms via the way that we feel, see, hear and experience life through our bodies and how we ended up incorporate meanings into our body.

 

Our bodies carry the rhythms of the ancient ones, waiting to mold itself unto itself.

There comes a point, when listening is the only choice we have.

 

I landed in Mauritius on Wednesday 2nd May and since I have been resting, immersing deeper into and through the whispers of my trip. I listened and I am still listening to my mind-body-heart-soul-energetic-emotion system. I am gently emerging from my powerfully shifting and transforming Bangalorian trip. “Whispers of Faith” carried me on it’s wings through and through. My current state, a sweet drunkenness, I swear can dwell right through this drunkenness for weeks and months.

I have much to share, to hum, to celebrate, to honor, to acknowledge, to remember and to re-member. Right now right here, my heart feels like whispering this one truth to you all.

 

When I felt compelled from within to birth “Whispers of Faith” in September 2017, I never had plans of having “heart conversations” around the whispers. I simply followed through what my entirety was kicking me towards to back then. When I was planning my Bangalore trip, I had no plans of hosting a book sharing session and least to even speak of and about “Whispers of Faith” but Spirit decided otherwise, through my mentor, teacher and Sister Rekha Kurup and I embraced it.

 

 

Glimpses of "Whispers of Faith" in Bangalore

 

And as reflect back on how my life has shifted since 30th November 2017, from drown in my agony of unworthiness to trapped in my fears of unknowingness and my current sweet drunkenness, hear my whispers

 

“When we take a STEP towards our FULLEST SELF, that “WHICH HAS ALWAYS BEEN” and that “WHICH WILL EVER BE” will CONSPIRE to keep us MOVING. A step that manifests through a project, through words, through lands, through chants, through “it all”; name it, call it and nail it. The BIGGEST TRAP is that of trying to CONTROL THE OUTCOME of it all – the expectations, the return on investments, the ties and the relations. DOUBTS, FEARS, CONFUSIONS, BREAKS, SHAKES, WAKES, LOSS, GAINS, WAITS, STUCK, STILLNESS, LOVE, HATE, SHAME, GUILT, NAME, GAMES, PAINS and BALMS, they will all PLAY AN EQUAL PART of our journey. That “WHICH HAS ALWAYS BEEN” and that “WHICH WILL EVER BE will stand strong through it all through us, by us, for us and with us, whether we believe or not. There is no turning back, there is no going astray, there is no off-track, once you activate the process of moving towards your fullest self.”

 

As close off my sharing, readying my self for this week with the intention of unwinding the whispers from India, my deepest wishes of love, light and vibes go  to you

“May you take a step towards your fullest self. Moving towards our fullest self always ask of us to let go of the generational luggage, we fear for these luggage have ended up becoming part an integral part of our faked truth. May you be reminded that “WHICH HAS ALWAYS BEEN” and that “WHICH WILL EVER BE” will guide, lead, protect, nurture, sustain for you, through you and with you. Take that one step towards your fullest self, through a project, through words, through lands, through chants, through “it all”; name it, call it and nail it.”

 

“Whispers of Faith” will be whispering on new lands in June 2018, more will be shared in coming weeks. Looking forward to expanding in humility and love.

 

Blessings. Blessed Be.

May Whispers Be. May Faith Be.

 

Megha Venketasamy

 

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What drives you?

I am slowly emerging from an intensely intense weekend and rushing week, celebrated my “born day” on 22nd April and we had our first heart to heart conversation through “Whispers of Faith” off Mauritius, in Bangalore.

Couple of hours before my born day, an incredibly strong woman asked me this question “Just curious to know what drives you?”

 

I do not know if what I am about to share will serve you in any possible way but I do know that what I am about to say comes from my truth at this moment in time.

MY COMMITMENT TO SERVING MYSELF DRIVES ME. I took an oath in 2010 that of never letting the limits of the past define me. It has not been an easy path since, for SUCH SELF-OATH ASKS OF ME TO SLAUGHTER MY FAKED SELF AND THERE IS NO END TO THIS PATH.

MY OPENING UP TO MY WOUNDS DRIVES ME. My 2010 oath takes me ongoingly to what I have seen, felt, heard and experienced of life so far. A life that has brought its share of love and wounds. I know that the only way through is to open myself to my wounds and face them. There have been days when I literally felt like I was dying. Along way I have learned and I am still learning that THERE IS NO WRONG OR RIGHT BUT RATHER WHAT AND HOW AND WHY YOU CHOOSE TO HOLD SPACE CONSCIOUSLY FOR WHATEVER IT IS IN YOUR LIFE.

MY LEARNING TO LET GO OF “BEING IN CONTROL”. Letting go of a corporate job, getting on new ventures, moving out of unhealthy relationships and instances- all these shake and fragile our seemingly grounded stability. For years now, my own notion of stability has been on rewire mode. And yes, I have had panic attacks and deep anguish in the beginning, FOR WHEN YOU STEP OUT INTO THE UNKNOWN, YOU EITHER ALLOW YOURSELF TO LEARN TO NAVIGATE THROUGH OR YOU WIGGLE ETERNALLY OUT OF YOUR NEED TO CONTROL.

Back in 2010, I had no idea that my life will shape the way it is unfolding right here right now and I do know that I will never choose otherwise.

 

MY “TRUSTING” MYSELF. Ask anyone and he/she will answer “I do not trust or at least, I do not trust everybody or somebody or those persons or these persons.” I have learned and I am still learning that “trust begins with oneself and ends with oneself.” TRUSTING THAT YOU WILL MAKE IT THROUGH; TRUSTING THAT LIFE WILL SUPPORT YOU THROUGH YOU, FOR YOU AND BY YOU; TRUSTING THAT LIFE WILL CONSPIRE ON YOUR BEHALF TO GET YOU TO EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE MEANT TO.

 

MY GIVING AND RECEIVING FROM MY VULNERABLE SELF. Humans flow when there is a balance in giving and receiving and for this to happen to a depth close to Divine, vulnerability must be ever present, allowing one's self to be seen, heard and felt and then moving through this world from that very vulnerable part. Changes, shifts and transformations peak through vulnerability. I write, I live, I smile, I laugh, I cry, I die, I share, I learn, I connect, I rejoice, I co-create and I whisper from my inner most vulnerable part for this is from where my strength leads; for this is from where our strength leads.

 

MY SURRENDERING TO LOVE.  I used to think that I am believer but only now I am growing into awareness what “surrendering to love” means. A love omnipresent within and through every animate and inanimate in this Universe. A love nameless, shadeless, colorless and fadeless. A love that destroys, co-creates, feeds, nurtures, preserves and annihilate. MY SURRENDERING TO MOVE CLOSER TO DIVINE WITHIN. Such choices annihilate all that one have ever been and it can be a painful process as one try hard to hang on to past beliefs and truth.

 

Sufi says

“in the end, your inner gifts are insignificant but rather how you flow and swirl through and within life through your inner gifts is what matters most. Your serving this world asks of you to serve your self first. Your serving your self first asks of you to move closer to all that has been and all that will ever be.”

 

I believe this is what drives me, this knowningness that life will never give up on me, no matter how broke, broken, hate, hated, doom, doomed, fade, faden, I may see, feel and hear.  

 

As we reach the end of this sharing, I am just curious to know what drives you! What is it from within that drives you? What is coming in your way for you to see, feel and hear that drive?

Do reach out and let us know what drives you.

 

Much love light vibes

May Whispers Be. May Faith Be

 

Megha Venketasamy

 

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"Whispers of Faith" has given wings to my life

End 2017 marked a defining phase in my life, while I thought that I was just risking money and investing time and resources by self-publishing “Whispers of Faith”, little did I understood that I was in truth opening myself to something way beyond me.

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Whenever we invest, we expect a return on investment and I will lie if I say that I never expected. Oh, I expected and this expectation drove me mad at one point.

What maddened me most with the launching of “Whispers of Faith” was my sense of UNWORTHINESS. I know many of you have been there and we are endless walking that path right now. It HIT me HARD, after years of BACK-TRACKING and HEALING, I just could NOT UNDERSTAND where my UNWORTHINESS was coming from? How come I SEE,FEEL and HEAR so LITTLE of my SELF? Where did I go wrong?

That EVER PRESENT feeling of being “NOT-ENOUGH” and it CRAWLED under my SKIN for weeks. I stood there watching my UNWORTHINESS kicking, jumping, screaming, going wild – my inner theater has always been VIBRANTLY MOVING. Can you IMAGINE the MOVIES that I have CRAFTED for weeks?

 

For weeks, post the launching of “Whispers of Faith”, I have walked painfully through that phase. It hurt like none and there were days, when it felt unfair, I have wondered many times, “Why was I being punished this way? Why does it have to hurt?

It seems weird in my case. Isn’t it? Megha has just launched her book along with her illustrations, then why was UNWORTHINESS LURKING around HER.

 

I do not know why but I understand now that UNWORTHINESS comes KNOCKING at the MOST APPROPRIATE time. Back then in December 2017, that was the MOST APPROPRIATE TIME. I was at the CUSP of MOVING DEEPER into my own SELF and what was HAMPERING in my way, was my UNWORTHINESS.

That feeling of utter UNWORTHINESS I have felt, its roots traced back in my childhood but most importantly, it took me to the BELIEFS and NARRATIVES that I have been holding on to when it comes to being WORTHY. My WORTHINESS as a WOMAN; My WORTHINESS as a DAUGHTER; My WORTHINESS as a LOVER; My WORTHINESS as a CREATOR and My WORTHINESS as a HUMAN BEING.

 

We live in a world where BEING WORTHY has been EXTERNALIZED. We live in a world where our WORTHINESS is CONDITIONAL. We have been BROUGHT UP and TAUGHT that UNLESS we DO THIS and ACHIEVE THAT, only then shall our WORTHINESS be VALIDATED externally. We have PARAMETERS and DEADLINES for WHEN to ACHIEVE WHATEVER IT IS. We have stamped EXPIRY DATES on DREAMS. We COMPARE and we ARE COMPARED to others. We FEEL LESS of OUR SELVES facing THOSE against WHOM WE are COMPARED. This DIRTY DANCE that has been ON for CENTURIES.

 

As I MARCH AHEAD my PATH, life is PURGING ME to take ME to this REALIZATION:

“My BEIGNESS in this MOMENT in time VIBRATES my WORTHINESS. NOTHING, NO ONE, NO ENTITY, NO TEACHER, NO FAMILY, NO MONEY, NO HOUSE, NO CAR, NO JOB, NO TITLE, NO SOCIAL STATUS, NO PARTNERSHIP, NO PARTNER, NO PLACE, NO BOOK, NO RELIGION can and will EVER DEFINE my WORTHINESS. I will ERR, I will LOSE, I will be LOST, I will TAKE, I will GIVE, I will BIRTH and I will ANNIHILATE but NONE of these will EVER DEFINE my WORTHINESS. Being ALIVE right HERE right NOW is ENOUGH.”

 

Truth, this is a tricky thing for most of us to come to a phase where we say this to our self.

When you birth something unto this world, it is considered as an investment for this world. When you birth something unto this world, that creation serves the purpose of shifting you first. I did not have the faintest hint that I was about to be rewired.

 “Whispers of Faith” gifted me one of the biggest return on my investments so far; it bestowed me one of my biggest shift, my sense of WORTHINESS.

While I thought I was giving wings to my words, my words gifted me more life.

 

I still do not call myself an author but I say that I am alchemist for I know that which I whisper comes from an inner alchemizing process that moved me from one place to another. Right here right now, more than ever I believe in the power of words.

 

I write the way I do, I share the way I do for more than ever I believe in the power of words.

Whenever you are in this moment in time, know that at one point, the only choice will be that of opening to your self. This is my deepest wish for you as you swirl through these words, may you open up to your self. May you rise to this knowingness that you are worthy and there is no external that can define your worthiness.

 

“Whispers of Faith”  has landed in Incredible India, some hours back, we will be whispering our magic in Bangalore.

We stay humble. We open up to release, to learn, to connect and to learn.

 

May Whispers Be May Faith

 

Love Love Love

Megha Venketasamy

 

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March’s Whispers of Wisdoms: Women led, Women lead and Women shall lead till the end

I am feminist and my feminism plays a key role in how I navigate this world. My definition of feminism comes from my learning of owning my inner feminine essence (something which we all have, men and women). My feminism ongoingly teaches me to honor all lives on earth regardless of all. This very feminism discomforts endless and I am fine with it.

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March is fundamental to me and for me, and for the endless women and men who have choosen to use their voice to stand for equality and fairness.

Women leadership has been massively celebrated all through the month of March. Though the celebrations, I sat with my own discomfort.

 

We celebrate women who are in high ranking positions; we honor women who now have titled status as requested by this society. We celebrate women who have endless pieces of papers. Amidst this we forget one fundamental; women have been leading from the very beginning of time on earth.

 Women leadership must not be rewarded but rather honored and respected.

Women leadership must not be prized but rather space must be created and held for women to perform a role that is true to their natural rhythms and rhymes.

Women led, women lead and women shall lead till the end of time.

 

When patriarchy as an oppressive system took over, it encroached women’s rights to performing to their fullest potentials. With women’s potentials blocked, this has negatively impacted on this entire world and on men. In this dis-balance system none wins.

 

While we reward, prize and award the few women in high ranking positions, we forget that we are inadvertedly repeating the very patriarchal mechanisms that we are working hard to overcome; we are forgetting those women who will never drive a car or wear high heals, or travel the world, still they lead. They lead like none, they teach and share like none. Their lives symbolize the great march within and they never waited for an external movement to overcome the limits that were imposed on them because their birth certificates are stamped “female”.

 

It is easier for a patriarchal system to celebrate and honor a few prized women instead of making the conscious committed and dedicated effort to create space for women to step in and lead the way through.

 

I feel, I see and I hear how my walk through this feminism journey has shifted massively from where I started years back to where I stand today.

I have been broke open, my belief system rewired, my focus shifted and I am learning as a feminist to keep an open heart to being human.

I see men and women bleed because their sense of worthiness has been externalized by patriarchy.

 

In my activisms and my work as a coach, I feel, I see, I hear, I read endless stories of humans’ whose have lost their sense of self-worthiness because at one point, they just never made it through accordingly to certain norms in this society. In this patriarchal system your worthiness as a human being has been defined as connected to externals.

When something is externalized, we will at one point pause to reward and award it.

 

Patriarchy ingrained yet another poison in our system “you are worthy provided you have achieved this or that.”

 

Women are worthy, so are men; worthy regardless of what they achieve in this life. Their very presence on earth defines their worthiness. No awards or rewards or prize can and shall ever define the worthiness of being a man and a woman.

 

Pausing, remembering, acknowledging, honoring an celebrating the lives of endless women whose leadership we will know of

Pausing, remembering, acknowledging, honoring and celebrating those women who have led and who lead and who shall lead till the end of time.

Women had led, Women lead and Women shall lead till the end of time.

 

 

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If only we allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough to speak of our state openly.

I am about to share one highly sensitive event and my intention of sharing comes from the deep compassion that has been flooding my space since that event.

A close friend of mine reached out yesterday, I had a free slot after my morning meeting and we coincided our time to catch up.

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He is in deep swirls of pains and confusions – struggling to find his grounding in his relationship with his wife, along with a one year child. The illusions of “knowing how to navigate through relationships” are dissolving and he is in deep sadness.

I paused and I listened, the coach in me takes over while the connected friend stood by to just listen.

 

But nothing prepared me for what I was to hear next. My friend bluntly asked me to sleep with him. This shook me hard, a friendship nurtured for years into family ties, love, respect and connection.

 

Instead of being and feeling offended or hurt, I asked myself what I can learn from this situation and from this amazing human being who is troubled by his life.

 

This situation was not and is not about me, though this situation was inherently going to teach me much.

 

MEN are TRAINED HARDCORE NOT to OWN what they FEEL, from the very beginning of their lives; they are TAUGHT and TOLD the way to DISCONNECT from their HEARTS, their FEELINGS, INSIGHTS and INTUITION.

 

And when pressure builds up internally, men SEEK a  way to RELEASE it all. But men do NOT TALK for TO TALK mean “you are MANLESS”; but men do NOT FEEL for TO FEEL mean “you are  SOFT BALLS” and men do NOT CRY for TO CRY mean “you are a SISSY."

 

When we are DISCONNECTED from our HEART, we go HUNTING for “WHATEVER IT ISOUTSIDE US. We SEEK for SOLUTIONS OUTSIDE us, for we BELIEVE that SOMEWHERE this is SOMETHING or SOMEONE who HOLDS the POWER to FEED us BACK to LIFE.

 

Being CONNECTED to one’s HEART means to LIVE life with the KNOWINGNESS and CONSCIOUSNESS that we OWN RESPONSIBILITY  in whatever we GO THROUGH, we are ABLE to SEE through the BELIEFS, PATTERNS and GROW in AWARENESS of how our EXISTENCE has been SHAPED and understand that at our CORE we HOLD the POWER to SHIFT and TRANSFORM.

 

But men are DISCONNECTED from their HEARTS, they are TAUGHT, TOLD and TRAINED to MAINTAIN CONTROL over it all, especially OVER their FEELINGS. Men are inherently NOT ALLOWED to FEEL through LIFE.

 

Disconnected from their hearts, men end up in relationships with women who are themselves disconnected from their bodies. Disconnected human beings ripple out more disconnects.

 

Making out on and off will surely bring human beings temporary release for as long as the orgasmic vibes last until the vicious pressurious circles kick in.

 

For those of you will read these words, my point is “sexual intimacy is sacred and beautiful but when the seeking and longing for intimacy emerge solely as a result of our internal pressure, then know the message is simple, there is something else, something deeper that is seeking our attention.”

 

Please pause and ask our self:

How am I feeling right now right here? Where is that feeling happening in my body? What is it that I have worked hard to hide? What is that one pressing issue I am running away from? What sense of emptiness am I trying to fill?  What difference will it make to my life to have a heart to heart conversation in a safe space with someone about that which I am going through?

 

As for my friend who is still MY FRIEND, he is CALMER, OWNING the TRUTH of his FEELINGS, his CONSTRUCTED SENSE of HAVING FAILED at getting THINGS RIGHT. He is GROWING into AWARENESS that this WORLD will ongoingly DICTATE MEN'S STEPS through lives BUT ULTIMATELY, our HEARTS will CATCH us and this will MARK the BEGINNING of a NEW ERA. As for me, I STAND in DEEPER COMPASSION for men. We SPEAK of WOMEN and their WOUNDS but we FORGET that this WORLD has also WOMBED and will keep on WOMBING MEN. Men who CARRY their own WOUNDS. Such slight AWAKENING helps me GROW instead of JUDGING.

 

Not for once, did I felt like an endangered species during that conversation, for this situation was not and is not about me, but this situation has taught me much.

My boundaries keep teaching me about the power of love and compassion.

May these words serve their purpose beyond my life.

 

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I write as an act of re-membering HIM, ME and all those connected to US.

Since 2010, I committed to heal my self to overcome the inner barriers that are hindering my path. I am not yet done and each day, I uncover one new barrier.

January 2017, these heart whispers poured through me, my fingers flowed on my keyboard, in front of my laptop screen, my entire body was shaking with tears and hurt from missing and healing from gratitude.

 

Yesterday one of my closest, reminded me of when the article, "I write as an act of re-membering HIM, ME and all those connected to US" was published and today, my heart whispered to share same with you because I believe stories carry the potentials to heal the keeper and the world.

 

I read my words one more time and this while it feels a deep trail of deepening love with the knowingness that we can all heal and shift our stories by choosing to open up.

 

May my story serve the purpose of healing my self and beyond.

Love Light Vibes

Megha

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I write as an act of re-membering HIM, ME and all those connected to US.

My father was not just a man, He was one of his kind; a mind of his own, a depth that none could understand. Someone from whom I have learned the love for words. This very love I kept running away for years.

 

To have had him as genitor was no and is no easy legacy, he was not just intelligent, striking, crazily weird but he had his darkest side - a side which me and my sibblings saw.

 

And to be called his physical carbon copy was no easy weight for me to carry. A resemblance that made sick for years even after his death.

 

He has been one of the most shifting journalists Mauritius has had. He has had his glory days and his doomed days. And our family doomed along with him, deep in his oceans of Rhum. And it went for years till 19th January 2003 on the eve of his 48th Birthday.

 

Death does not heal wounds and death does not bring answers to endless questions a child’s heart can carry. So his death never brought justice to neither me nor my sibblings.

 

When he was here, I would run away from this legacy that this whole world was trying to throw on me and when he passed away, I speeded my pace away from all that could ever have been HIM.

 

And for eight years, I would numb every single memory of HIM ensuring that no one could ever remind me of who my father was. I was not a bad person and I am still not a bad person but I was simply fighting my way through that which was paining me for years.

 

And as I reached my 27th birthday, everything shifted, my whole life crumbled down and within that space, I made the choice to look at that which was killing me slowly. And out of this phase, came life’s shifting questions “Who am I? What ignite me from within? What is it that makes me soar?

 

There he came shyly, Koomara Venketasamy, he took his time and he stepped into my space again. This while he waited till I was ready to look, till I was ready to listen, till I was ready connect.

 

And from there on, it took me three years to mourn his death. From then on, the words started flowing.

 

He came to bestow me with one of my gifts – the power through words.

Today, I write because that’s part of my legacy.

I write because this is what HE taught me; this is what HIS storms roared to me; this is what HIS eyes whispered to me.

I write to honor this legacy that I have despised for years.

I write as an act of re-membering HIM, ME and all those connected to US.

I write because my heart knows no other ways to sing.

I write because I have learned that there is tremendous healing in words

I write because deep within I know that the world’s magic lies within words

I write because I cannot do otherwise

I write because this is my way of letting HIM know that “I am growing more and more into ME and I will never give up on ME.”

 

Grieving does not happen overnight and it takes the time it takes. It takes years and lives. It is very challenging to mourn death of close ones and it is no easy task to embrace legacies coming from them. I know no easy pathway to this but right now, at this very instance, I know that the legacies carry wisdom. I know we are the Guardians of the Wisdom to be handed over to the next generation of Magic Weavers.

 

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The quality of our relationship with others mirrors the quality of our own self-relationship.

“He is not the way he is meant to be with me”, she heaved

“What is this way that he is meant to be with you?” I asked.

Silence.................., “well, I don’t know”, she mumbled.

I pushed gently, “so please describe to me the way he is with you right now”, and the details flooded in.

“When you say he is not the way he is meant to be with you, it is compared to what?”, I asked.

“Well others, you know how others are and how they live together,” she hushed.

And then she fed me with details and information about that which was happening within.

 

We are immersed in the month of love but as we speak of love, we have unfortunately built fantasies around what love is and how relationships are meant to be.

 

There are no one-way rules to be in relationships, there are for sure some non-negotiables that have to be present in any healthy relationship and these are: boundaries, respect, honesty, commitment and communication.

 

And while we roam this world expecting our relationships to be picture perfect, “You are the One who has vowed to serve your significant other till your last breaths and Your Significant Other has committed to wipe your tears eternally.”

 

Get off that illusionary tree, relationships do not happen this way.

 

Each individual comes with his/her own personal story, wounds, pains, fears, failures, limited beliefs, successes, magic and awesomeness. A person’s ability and willingness to connect with another, is directly linked to that person’s connection to him/her self and own his/her story. And this is not always an easy path for we live in a world bombed by fakedness.

 

When we choose to be with someone and feel for someone, it means we have actually choosen to commit to embrace that person’s personal story, wounds, pains, fears, failures, limited beliefs, successes, magic and awesomeness.

 

This asks of us compassion, ability to hold space and the knowingness that what the other person feels, says and how he/she lives comes from that person’s story, wounds, pains, fears, failures, limited beliefs, successes, magic and awesomeness. But to able to hold space and to stand in compassion for someone else, , all this is linked to our own understanding, embracing, acknowledgement  and owning of our story, wounds, pains, fears, failures, limited beliefs, successes, magic and awesomeness.

 

You cannot give to others unless you have given to your self.

 

Our relationships say a lot about us. If we are constantly ending in relationships where we feel left out, betrayed, unheard, unseen and unfelt. Then I wonder, “What parts of us are we not listening to? What parts of us have we been running away from? What is yet to be acknowledged, healed and embraced within?”

 

The quality of our relationship with others mirrors the quality of our own self-relationship. A truth that is not always easy to digest because there will always be persons with whom we will bond easily and there will always be others who will keep triggering us.

 

Instead of trying to box our relationships based on external representations, now is the time to pause and seek what bits and pieces of us are yet to be acknowledged, healed and embraced and while we are at it, how can we allow others to go through whatever they are going.

Centuries ago, one of my most favorite teacher, Rumi whispered this on healing:

"Lose yourself completely. Return to root of the root of your own soul."

 

The one truth is , as we heal so others heal. For as we return to root of the root of our story, wounds, pains, fears, failures, limited beliefs, successes, magic and awesomeness,  we grow in our own understanding, compassion and acceptance. As we grow in our own understanding, compassion and acceptance, we heal and as we heal, we  grow into something that understands, accepts and holds compassion for others' story, wounds, pains, fears, failures, limited beliefs, successes, magic and awesomeness.

 

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Fix it Right Here and Right now.......

My first morning of 2018, I spent it with my friend Chaya. We hit the road at 04.30am, morning walk and swim. Today, I write from a place of high inspiration and deep gratitude with one of Chaya’s photo next to me.

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A new year and we are all trying to get it right; they say a “great start means a great year”.

We are many in this frenzy of “fix it right here and right now.”

This blog speaks of a topic that most of us struggle with, to an extent of not living out fully.

 

A client, Sharon shared that she is at a company and in a position that is no longer challenging her. She wants to move forward in her career but she is frustrated with herself because because she is no more motivated.

A friend of mine is going through a tough phase, the love of his life is getting married to someone else. He really believed that he had finally found the one, and it is hard to him to reconcile with whatever is happening in his life.

My client, Faizah, just started dating a friend’s brother. It’s going well, but she’s having doubts, she is not entirely sure. She kept saying to herself and to me, “I shouldn’t be having these thoughts or doubts because he is a great guy. But still!”

A close one went through a miscarriage last week. She’s rightfully heartbroken, and very surprised by the amount of emotions that are coming up for her with this loss. 

In 2016, I made choices, moved out of partnerships but then I went through a phase of intense emotional release. I was in total denial and deep anger for over 3 months. It just did not make sense to me how I was going through this after years and months of inner works and healing.

 

There is a common thread in these stories “Why me? Why now? How come? Why Universe, why could not things be easy and loving for at least once? How come I was blind again this time? Why can’t I figure it out? When will this end?”

 

Our minds have been trained to fix. Our immediate reaction will be to go over the “Why? How? When?” while carefully resisting “what is”.

 

“What is” is the reality that which is happening right now. A reality based on how you experience life, and instead of acknowledging and giving space to “what is”, most of us will dive fast for that future.

 

May be you want “what is” to go away.

May you are tired of feeling that way and you want it to change now.

But when we are in so much pain, our minds will not let us feel all the feelings that come up.

 

Our minds won’t let us feel all the feelings that come up when we are in so much pain. It will go straight to researching, analyzing, isolating, segmenting, dissociating, associating and doing till it hits a point. Then the mind will try to find the lesson behind and try an action plan to get over it.

 

Our mind won’t allow us to take in “what is” because it’s too busy trying to fight or flee from the emotions into “fix it” mode. 

 

Pausing to acknowledge and face “what is” is in truth, honoring ourselves by being really honest about what we are feeling or thinking right now in this moment fully, without justifying or diagnosing

 

When I asked my client Sharon, why she feels she needs to be focusing on her career when she is no more motivated, she answered, “Because I’ve always been that person, especially in my family - driven to really feel accomplished in my career.” 

 

Can you see her attachment to what she’s known herself to be, a specific identity, is keeping her from being honest and real about what she feels right now? 

 

My friend said to me, “I’m just mad at her. I am mad that she broke a relationship that felt so real and loving. How can she not see that and how could she do this to me?”

He followed that up with, “But does that sound like I’m playing the victim? Does not mean that I am not connected and enlightened enough?” 

Do you see how he starts to let himself feel what is real for him right now in the moment, and then shuts it down to try to be somewhere else? 

 

I smiled, “Is this playing victim? But are you allowed to be pissed that this is happening because that’s how you feel right now in this moment?”

 

I asked the client who is dating her brother’s friend what she was actually questioning. She said, “I’m just being superficial and dumb.”

She said, “He doesn’t seem as sophisticated as I thought he would be. He’s divorced and I feel he’s still holding on to some parts of that relationship. Also, at times I feel he can’t meet me at my intellectual level.” 

And each time she wanted to go into how she doesn’t really know him yet, and how she could be wrong, which is true, I just kept bringing her back to allowing herself to admit what she’s thinking.

After she rattled off a bunch of doubts I said, “How does it feel to just be honest with yourself without trying to change it?” 

She said, “I actually feel lighter cus most of these doubts aren’t really true. I feel like I have more space to also explore and just see what happens.” 

 

When I asked my close one how she’s FEELING after the miscarriage, she said, “I’m just trying to figure out the lesson behind why this happened and what caused it.” 

Notice how she didn’t really answer my question. She didn’t reveal how she was feeling at all. This is normal because facing the emotions can feel so hard.

 

The first and only step to taking in “what is” is asking yourself, “What am I honestly feeling right now?” “What am I honestly thinking right now?” And allow it fully. Accept it fully. Then we can have space to move forward differently and transform into what we desire. 

Unless we allow our selves to see the picture of whatever we have crafted ,we will not be able to re-craft some new inner sceneries for an elevated new journey.

 

Is it hard for you to take in “what is”? How do you move through difficult or painful moments? 

Did this blog serve a purpose for you?

I will love to hear from you, do reach out on megha.venketasamy@gmail.com

Love Love Love

Megha 

 

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What legacy do you want to leave?

I am dwelling in a space where I feel called to set my intentions like never before.

These questions have been swirling in my space for a week and today, I hand them over to us and for us.

What legacy to do you want to leave behind?

What is that gift of your presence that you want to leave behind when you depart this human body?

What and how and who do you want to be remembered as?

 

Maybe you want to be remembered through your children or through your significant other or through your work or through your family. Regardless of what legacy means to and for you, know that this is your legacy and every legacy matters for they become part of this world and will serve the purpose to fuel love within this world.

 

And as I walk through this phase, I wonder about so many of us – I wonder about the process that we all go through consciously and unconsciously. This phase is teaching me that it will take more than just well-defined specific intentions to reach that specific destination.

There is an element that most of us do not talk about; something that most of us shy away from for this is probably an aspect that has been misunderstood and demonized from the very beginning of life.

 

POWER!!!!!!

 

When I say “POWER”, I refer to the innate ability, wisdom, gifts that each one of us carries within. The POWER to CREATE, to CO-CREATE, to SUPPORT but also the POWER to DESTROY and to ELIMINATE.

 

I know that I am not the only one and certainly that the last  to struggle to owning her POWER. My POWER to CREATE, to CO-CREATE and to SUPPORT. And I stay very much present to my POWER to DESTROY and to ELIMINATE.

I am learning to walk towards HUMILITY instead of PLAYING SMALL. PLAYING SMALL is one thing and STAYING HUMBLE is another thing.

 

HUMILITY comes from the KNOWINGNESS that there is no SELF-MADE  BEINGS on earth, WE ARE WHO ARE We in this moment in time, for OUR EXISTENCE has been IMPACTED by and through the EXISTENCE of OTHERS (those who came before us and those who are right here right now). This PERPETUAL SYNCHRONIZATION OF LIFE into our EXISTENCE, whether we BELIEVE IN IT or NOT  whether WE ARE AWARE OF IT or NOT, speaks of this INTERDEPENDENCE that EXISTS THROUGH and WITHIN each one of US. This is HUMILITY, this KNOWNINGNESS that our STORIES are INTERTWINED and our PATH is the SAME though we DEFINE it DIFFERENTLY.

 

PLAYING SMALL is SELF -DEFEATING. It is an energy INTENTIONALLY INVESTED to HIDE the LIGHT, the SHINE, the BRIGHT and WISDOM that naturally OOZE from WITHIN. This is TIRESOME and this is UNDIVINELY and UNLOVING.

 

The other side of the HUMILITY and PLAYING SMALL is OVER-TAKING, wanting it ALL for US. DESTROYING and ELIMINATING with the sole intention of FEEDING our POWER to keep DESTROYING and ELMINATING.

 

We are many to shy at the mention of POWER. For we never understood that as much it may be easy to be corrupted, we will never move ahead unless we own our POWER. Regardless of how we funnel that POWER, we will be called to balance our actions in future. ABUSE of POWER will have to be settled as much as LOVE through POWER will be rewarded. This is the BALANCE of LIFE.

 

What does POWER have to do with LEGACY?

Intention setting is a creative process and such process summons parcels of our beings unknown to us. Such process beckons our POWER to to CREATE, CO-CREATE, SUPPORT, DESTROY and ELIMINATE.

Such process asks of us to own our inner light, shine, bright and wisdom. The bigger the intentions, the more POWER is activated from within. A POWER that SEEKS to swirl through this world.

Those who have made it through history, impacting the world but first their families, with deep rooted legacies whether they are known  or unknown, whether they were parents, lovers, teachers, gardeners or writers, they did one thing – they owned their POWER. Maybe they never understood it but they OWNED every part of their being that carried the POTENTIAL to CREATE, CO-CREATE, SUPPORT, DESTROY and ELIMINATE.

 

When you start owning that POWER to CREATE, CO-CREATE, SUPPORT, DESTROY and ELIMINATE, the one thing that happens is you become a CUSTODIAN of and to a LEGACY which will handed from and through you to others. It could well be a LEGACY of LOVE, of HOPE, of NURTURE, of CONNECTIONS, of CONCEPT, of BUSINESS. Whatever it is, to be able leave a LEGACY behind, you have to BECOME the CUSTODIAN of whatever it is first. To become the CUSTODIAN of WHATEVER it is, you will have to OWN your POWER, knowing that while you can CREATE, CO-CREATE and SUPPORT, you can also easily SWAP to DESTROY and ELIMINATE.

 

The equation is simple:

 You can GIVE only what You HAVE.

You GIVE when You are a CUSTODIAN,

someone who GUARDS,KEEPS and NURTURES

 whatever it is.

You BECOME a CUSTODIAN when You OWN your POWER to BECOME the CUSTODIAN

 

Benazir Bhutto , Mahatma Gandhi , Margaret Thatcher, Martin Luther King, Maya Angelou, Nelson Mandela, , Wayne Dyer and Sojourner Truth  they were all CUSTODIANS. They have probably struggled with POWER but had they not owned their POWER with the awareness that every step of theirs could and would change the world, we would not be the keepers of their legacies of LOVE, TRUTH, FREEDOM, HEALING, HUMANITY and  much more.

 

What legacy to do you want to leave behind? What is it that gift of your presence would you want to leave behind when you depart this human body?

What and how and who do you want to be remembered as?

Who are you as a Custodian? What do you want to guard, to nurture with the intention of handing over to the next generation?

How can you lead the way through by owning your POWER and staying PRESENT to your innate ability to DESTROY and ELIMINATE?

 

Whatever it is that you choose as path, at one point, you will be called to balance every investment you made through the use of your POWER. Keep in mind that the only mercy you will experience will be that of you facing the wrongs that you have done. You are the Alchemist.

 

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Re-Writing our Narratives of Whatever it is

I feel as days stretch, we will no more be able to escape the one pounding whisper “it is time to review your narratives of whatever it is.”

I pause and I scan my path up till now. I see, I hear and I feel how those narratives handed over to me, were in turn validated by my self until I ended up building a huge chunk of life around it.

There is much to say, to state and even more to shatter.

 

I am about to open my Pandora of churning thoughts owning responsibility to review every words in years to come; acknowledging that this life itself is no constant. One day, I will be asked to unlearn everything that I am about to learn.

 

Here are my whispers

1. Love is not what we know of love

Love is not always some comfortable thing. When true love steps in, this love will take you on an unlikely ride. A bumpy shaky ride that forces you to face your fears, your unworthiness, your limits and your wounds. 

You will be nauseous with this kind love. I am not speaking of narcissistic love, though even these relations have their roles to play on earth.

I am speaking of a love that is so pure that it comes into your life with the sole purpose of moving you to closer to you. And for this inner closeness to come into being, you will have to let go of everything that hinders your path to you.

Know that if ever you were to fall unto such love in your life, then you are a blessed one. When your love mirrors your fears, your unworthiness, your limits and your wounds – know this is the beginning of a whole new journey where you will be taught to you are deep within to emerge.

Such pure love redefines compassion.

 

2. Compassion does not mean that life will save from your phase

Being compassionate does not mean that life will pause to come to your rescue. Being compassionate does not mean that life will interfere on your behalf to smoothen the process you are going through.

Compassion means that space will be held for whatever you are going through, knowing and believing that you will make it through. Being compassionate means that life stands in awareness that this phase is exactly what you need to make it through and this is your battle. Prayers, Wishes and Humming will talk through with you but life will never INTERFERE.

 

Life will never INTERFERE until you learn to INTERFERE on your behalf.

This will ask of you to raise one tiny finger and this is enough to keep you going.

 

3. Alchemize this belief of pain sine-qua-non to learning and growth

We have been brought up in an illusion of stability and success

Change scares us; Change brings to surface our deepest fears. Change announces a new world and we resist this. Growth is scary for this world practices the doctrine of selling “growth equals to pains”, there is no growth without pains.

Our true nature is not aligned to pain, so we try to fix pains, we run away, we hide, we stuff and we numb.

It is our resistance that causes pain. Know where your resistance comes from, know why you are comfortable in this old, know what it symbolizes for you

Know also that you cannot resist change. As much as change can be smooth in the beginning, it will be violent if you have let it accumulate for far too long.

Pain is a result of unawareness, of wanting to fix things, of holding on and of being afraid.

None knows what is ahead but there is a promise from life, when you release that which dis-serves you, the rest will fall in place.

 

4. Discomforts are not meant to be fixed

Human beings are gifted with a palette of emotions. We have been taught and told about synthetic happiness. A marketed image of happiness which dictates that moment of discomforts are to be fixed and corrected.

There is nothing wrong in feeling discomfort. This discomfort is here to teach you something. It is telling you something. It is here for a reason. Stay with it

Know that nothing is wrong with you. You will feel, you will question. You will doubt. You will compare. You will freak out. You will drag yourself. You will cry. You will be angry.

Until you find your own way through. You will have to rock bottom until your suffocation kicks you to make a choice to reach out for your light. This is being human.

 

5. Trust your Feeling

Feeling is that space within, when you know that which you know not how –

this Unknown Knowningness.

There is no logic here. No oracle can predict for you. No healer can smoothen your path.

This is about you and your journey.

Perhaps the biggest challenge of any human this moment onwards is to start trusting his/her flow, knowing that there is no logic to this flow.

There will be no instant validation for what which you FEEL. This instant gratification, we have been domesticated into, holds no space as we move forward in our consciousness.

This is about your training into TRUST.

 

6. Whoever teaches you to curse others’ differences, know this is not DIVINE

We have wasted enough lives being scared of that which differs on the surface.

Religious Leaders have played a wicked role in fueling this.

Know that the path we are going is asking us to rewrite the narratives of what being different mean but most importantly to heart our differences for at their core rests the keys to our healing and elevation.

Whatever, whoever, wherever, whichever, however, you were brought up to believe in, know that you will have to let go of that fear of the differences; know that this is no one way to meeting Divine.

And if there exists one way, then that way is that you shredding all that is not Divine within you.

 

 

2018 announces itself as a SPECTACULAR year, most of us will BE NO MORE the SAME by 2019. WE will undergo TRANSFORMATION like NEVER BEFORE. WE will be LOST, WE will AGONIZE, WE will  be SCARED and WE will SCARE the WORLD.

But ultimately, WE will FIND our WAY THROUGH, for that’s the PROMISE from LIFE, “WE WILL ALL END UP HOME EVENTUALLY.”

 

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"Whispers of Faith" is One Month Old

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I am still digesting what I did, how I did it and all the support that has been flooding my way since.

I never once questioned why I was being pushed to move ahead with this book.

 

From the very BEGINNING, there HAS BEEN and there is STILL

this UNKNOWN KNOWINGNESS that this PROJECT had to be BIRTHED.

 

Took that risk, invest time and finance and most importantly trust people who joined this ride. Today, I stand in my most vulnerable skin whispering to me, you and us as we close off this year.

Four months ago, I first uttered this phrase “Whispers of Faith” and off, we ventured through this journey. What happened to me and to us along way feels like an entire life

 

Mid November 2017, as we neared the closing of this project, I was plunged into darkness and I lingered there for days.

But what happened exactly?

 

My faith was annihilated; that in which I have ever believed in was being washed away. This was the scariest part of this journey. How do I stand and talk about Faith for my Book Launch when I could no more believe in that which was handed over to me from the very beginning of this life?

 

How do I keep moving? How do I keep communicating to people who were part of the project?

 

The Gods, the Goddesses, the stories and the myths, they no more stood for me in that moment in time. I understood I was over them and this frightened me. Not that I no more believed in the UNSEEN, the UNFELT and the UNHEARD. My connection WITH, TO, and THROUGH Divine was being REWIRED. I was being REWIRED.

 

The inner violence and agony that I have been through were the results of me holding on to that which were being asked to be alchemized. I was chasing the bits and pieces of beliefs and patterns that were no more serving me.

 

Despite, my awareness, I was not fully able to SMOOTEN my steps through this darkness. Resistance is part of our human domestication until we reach a peak where our physical body will push us to surrender.

 

I went through that phase and it felt unfair. I saw, I felt and I heard myself crying, “Why Universe, you asked me to proceed with this project and why this agony now?”

 

Witnessing my entirety crumbling down and still having to move ahead for everything was set in motion for the Launch.

The launch happened and things happened way beyond my expectations and plan.

 

“Whispers of Faith” is one month old today.

 

Where do I stand right now?

I am still on my path, moving ahead. But no more the same, hear my heart whispers today:

1. Know that the ANNIHILATION of your FAITH is part of the PATH OF FAITH

There will be pivotal phases in our life when all that we have ever believed in, will crumble down for the real, for the true and for truth to step in.

It is part of a plan beyond us; whether we want it or not, we will be called in due time to release beliefs that hinder us from connecting deeper within without.

Whether we seek it or not, there will come a time when we will have to release limited patterns to step in our role to support the elevation of this world.

 

Where are you in this moment in time? What do you feel? What does your body say? What movies is your mind theatering ?

Know that as we release that which has served us, newness will step in. This is the promise from Life.

 

2. Initiation through Your Self

Whispers of Faith came to me as my initiation into my path of Faith

A path that asks to TRUST the UNSEEN, the UNFELT and the UNHEARD, that which dwells within, that which leads within, that which guides within and that which whispers within.

A path that asks to FEEL, SEE and HEAR DIVINE beyond what this world teaches us.

And this can be confusing, for I am intentionally choosing to use the word DIVINE, to intentionally VOID the space so that you find your WAY THROUGH.

This can be SHAKY, UNGROUNDING and CHAOTIC.

 

Chaos is part and parcel of any initiation.

I have witnessed the chaos, I became Chaos and I emerged from Chaos into Grace.

But we have over-fanaticized pain as a key ingredient to growth. Pain happens because of resistance.

 

Where is resistance happening in your life? Seek help and release it.

Know that when you are initiated, you will be asked to release the old for the new to step.

You will have to be willing to lose everything,

to literally fail to connect to your self

Know that any initiation has for purpose to move you closer to Divine, closer to You.

In the end this is about you and you.

 

3. Compassionate Divine

Divine is utterly Compassionate. While you wiggle in agony, you are never left on your own, not even for a millisecond.

While it is easy to curse our circumstances, while it is even easier to embrace the fatality of our life, know that we have been and we will always be supported, guided, loved and led by something way beyond us.

Wherever you are in this moment in time, know that the love, the support, the guidance, the embrace that you are seeking, are right here with you surrounding you and humming for you.

If only, you would allow yourself to believe, to listen, to trust as you move ahead

What difference will it bring to your life, if you would pause just for a few seconds to listen, to believe and to trust your unknown knowingness?

 

4. Trust, Trust and Trust

We have been trained to seek logic and reasoning. Our mind says things, our body senses something else and our feeling knows what it knows not.

This is the perfect conflicting equation.

 

This is what I have learned.

Number 1:My Mind

My mind will drama through but I have a choice to follow  or not. My mind is such a magnificent tool that it will craft stories and movies and cloud my senses and my vision.

My mind roars control. But control for what, of what, of who?

Are you clouded? Is there an excess of information? Do you no more know what and who to trust?

 

Number 2: My Body

My human body is far way sensitive. My body senses that which I do not always hear, see and feel. My body knows which way is good for me, which place will drain me. My body is constantly communicating to me.

What is your body telling as you read those words? When did you last listen to your body?

 

Number 3: My Feeling

This unknown knowingness, we all have it. You have it too. And there is no logic to it

There is no instant validation for this unknown knowingness.

And this is how your trust and faith are reinforced – you trusting this unknown knowingness of yours.

We all have this one thing at least, that we know without knowing how. that one knowingness for which we have no logic, no explanations. Use that one unknown knowingness as a starting part to build your inner muscles as you walk your walk through.

 

Know that this is YOUR PATH and it is only UP TO YOU to find your WAY THROUGH

Know that as you START TRUSTING your

UNKNOWN KNOWINGNESS, your BODY and MIND will align.

Know that whether you WANT it or NOT, you WILL eventually LOSE everything that COMES between YOU and YOUR ELEVATION

Know that every PROJECT will ASK of a DIFFERENT version of YOU

Know that as we USHER our WAY into 2018, we are being ASKED to SHIFT, to CHANGE and to TRANSFORM into something WAY BEYOND that which we KNOW

Know that a NEW YOU will be BIRTHED

TRUST TRUST TRUST

 

 

My deepest wishes of love, light, abundance, gratitude and vibes for 2018

May this New Year open doors within without

May this New Year moves You Closer to You

Love Light Vibes

Megha Venketasamy

 

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How do you find your path?

We are standing at crucial point in time, another year drawing it’s end and we are many questioning our reasons for being present in this moment in time and the way forward.

These past weeks, I have been blessed to witness amazing human beings who are at crossroads and the questions that they keep asking is “How do I find my path? How will I know that this is the way to go? And what if I choose one way and then I end up missing the actual path?”

 

There is no one way to finding your path. No one can truly predict this life for you. But, there are some key triggers as move through with your questions.

 

1. No One can answer you, not even an Oracle

Know that this is your path and things will be shown to you and only to you.

As you grow in awareness of your inner world – beliefs, agreements, values, feelings, emotions, sensations, body and memories, you will then have a deeper understanding of how to shift in an empowering way to navigate through this life for your life.

Do not be fooled by anyone telling you that they will show you the way.

Facilitators and coaches play a role of guiding you to uncover your inner world but in truth, we are as novice as you to that which is happening within you

 

2. Let go of that which is weighing down

What is coming between you and you?

We have been taught and told to be this one, that one, the other and some other one.

No one never told and taught you that finding your path will ask of you to let go of everything that is not you, let go of the masks that you carry, of the things that are not aligned to your heart, let go of instances, places, relations, people that are not honoring you.

 

Truth be, we know, we see, we feel and we hear that which are not aligned to us. But we are a touch scared for if we let go of them all, what will become of us?

We will become more of us and as we become more of us, the rest flow in.

For you to step in, space is crucial. As you let go, space is created.

 

3. No wasted Energy

You may be one of those who have been exploring so many paths, creative flows these past years.

Know that there is nothing wrong. Trust that one day you will join the dots.

You may be in a white collar job right now, wondering whether all these acquired skills and competences will serve a purpose, were you to take the leap to create your own way.

Every tiny step, you have taken so far are serving a purpose in your present and they will serve a purpose in future.

There is no such thing as wasted energy on earth.

Those certificates and work experiences, they will serve their purpose regardless of where you land in life. Some of them will have to be released but the human experiences will never go to waste.

Be reminded of this!

 

4. Go with the flow

Give your self permission to go with the flow of life but be present to what “going with the flow of life” means.

In no way it means sitting here and waiting for things to happen. In no way it means letting others come in your space and pulling you in all directions. In no way it means following others blindly.

 

Going with the flow of life, means acting on your intuitive flow.

There will be moments when you will feel led, guided and called from within in a specific direction to the external world. Go ahead! Follow your calling for it comes from inside of you

 

Yes these are also times when having an open heart to heart conversation with a coach and a facilitator can prove to be crucial for you will be held in a way that will allow you to listen to your inner callings.

Move ahead and try that which your heart is attracted. Try that which carries no logic yet it sings to your heart like none.

How do you find this one? You know it, as you close eyes, you see, you feel and you hear your self doing that which sings to your heart like none.

 

5. Know that one day you will have to funnel it down

As much as it is healthy to explore, know that one day you will have to make a choice to funnel it down.

One day, you will have to pause and choose among the other choices that ignite you from within.

And I often hear this from clients, “what if this is not the right path? What if I miss out on the rest if I choose this one?”

There is no bulletproof answer to this one. But there are two keys to all this:

 

First Key – Inner Power

When you make a choice, you will start gathering a specific inner power to move through this choice. As you gather inner power, you grow deeper from inside. This is crucial, regardless of what will happen to you, growing into you is the most important part of your path.

Know that the mere act of choosing is enough for you are allowing yourself to grow.

Allowing yourself to go in itself will ensure that you will be lead exactly where you are meant to

 

Second Key – A choice is not The Path

There is no wrong or right choices. Your choices will flow lessons, love, wisdom and healing your way.

For this to happen, you will have to open up a touch through each step.

For this to happen, you have to understand that A choice is not The Path.

 

While what you choose can shape your life for years ahead, know that what you choose will also sharpen your intuitiveness through life, even if it means letting go of this choice in future.

It is you and your intuitiveness that find the way to your path.

 

And you will never know this unless you choose.

 

6. You have always been on your path

You are already on your path, yet no one told you this.

You have been on your path from the very beginning.

Your fears of failure and of getting hurt and the external world’s definition of what “being on the path” means, have kept you blinded from seeing that you have always been on your path.

If we were to ask you to pause just for a few minutes and scan your life of what you have known of so far, we are sure you will find bits and pieces and glimpses of how you have always been right where you are meant to be.

 

You do not have to quit everything and go on mountains and retreats to mediate. But yes, you have to start clearing the mess off your vision to see whatever is in front of you to allow your self to pave your way consciously from this moment onwards.

Meditation, prayers, yoga, life coaching are pathways that play a vital role for they bring you closer to you.

 

As we close off this one extra long blog,

 

Pause, Breathe and Know that You are Already on Your Path, whether You BELIEVE or NOT.

Know that You will have to KEEP CHOOSING, CHOOSE that WHICH SINGS to YOUR HEART

You will have to ALLOW YOUR SELF to be EMERGE

As You EMERGE, YOUR INTUITIVE FLOW WILL PAVE YOUR WAY THROUGH

 

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Some Whispers of Truth

It’s been one week since we have launched “Whispers of Faith”.

I say “WE” for had it been not for the support, love, guidance and energy of collaborators, mentors, sisters, brothers , friends and for so many of you , this project would not be where it stands today.

This is what I have been through, here is what I saw, this is how I felt and these are what I heard.

 

We all enjoy being witness to the unveiling of some magic, of some awesomeness.

This awakens our inner dreamer, this inspires us and we aspire to bring our own magic unto this world.

Yet we rarely ever question the process behind. What brought someone to where she/he person stands today?

 

 

I am reviewing my own process at this moment in time. There’s much to say and share.

 

First and Foremost

It is easy to talk about FAITH, yet it feels fairily foolish to even try to sell stories of FAITH.

 

FAITH means to believe in the unknown, the unseen, the unfelt and the unheard. Faith is far beyond a belief. FAITH by default means that it cannot be shaken.

But FAITH is such path that is not devoid of doubts, confusions, pains, hurts and wounds.  Those of us, who will consciously walk the path of spreading FAITH, we will first and foremost be purged of everything that comes between us and that which we define as FAITH.

 

Doubts, Fears, Tears

Know that when you dive into a project, regardless of it’s depth and immensity, there will be great moments of awe as well as moments of doubts, fears, pains and freaking.

Most teachers do not talk about it. Rather, they ask you to REFOCUS and BE POSITIVE.

I say, FEEL what YOU FEEL. Own it, but know that this is temporary but most importantly know that this FEELING is here to TEACH YOU something about YOU.

 

Doubts and fears  do not just happen; they speak of your fears, of your stored wounds, of your unhealed parts.

 

We have all them. You have them and you may well be licking them right now for they were named.

 

This implies that you will freak out, you will want to quit, you will want to run away, you will want to bury your self  somewhere. Exactly how I felt all along way.

 

None of this means you are UNWORTHY. It may well mean that you are JUST OVERWHELMED and there are tiny butterflies asking to be LOOKED at WITHIN you. It may well mean that you have wounds that are asking to be healed.

 

What comes between YOU and FAITH?

What stops you from believing in life? Who cautions you from trusting life?

We are not even referring to people, objects or places but LIFE..

What is coming in your way to trusting that things can be unfold magnificently for you?

 

Can you feel it? Can you see it? Can you hear it?

That part of your unhealed self. Your VERY BEING.

That very part that you have bomb-stated within and then you live the same horror over and over again.

 

If there is anything hindering your way to believing in life, then that thing is inside you, ingrained deep within.

Unconsciously you have been nurturing it for years, now it is ingrained and interfering with you and your life.

 

We say, these are constructs; for most of life, you will construct your life unconsciously.

 

But when you grow a touch in your awareness, then it is up to you, solely up to you, to make a choice to start owning that which hurts, that which stinks, that which pains and that which burns within.

 

Know there is no end to all this

Life is an endless ride, there may be pauses but there are no stops.

Nothing ever stops. Even when you ask for pauses and for stops. Even when you pray for pauses and stops – know that the INNER WORKS GO ON.

This is a life where You will learn to EMBRACE your KIND of FAITH through the tears, pains and wounds.

 

None of these make you less of anything, even if you think you are less.

This is the truth of life and from life.

 

This is what I have been through, here is what I saw, this is how I felt and these are what I heard.

 

FAITH is an inside rhythm.

It happens between YOU and your KIND of FAITH.

 

And the RIDE is not OVER YET.

 

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Pausing, Standing Tall

Celebrating and Honoring Your Path, My Path, Our Path

Endless Love, Blessings, Light and Vibes

Megha Venketasamy

 

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What if there is no such thing as falling in love?

 

Have you ever thought of this one single thing – what if this “story of falling in love” that you have been feeding yourself, was just a fake story?

What if there is really no such thing as falling in love?

What if the truth is that love is always surrounding you?

 

You often see it through the beauty of nature for they do not pinge your soft wounded parts like other humans do.

Whether you believe in it or not

Love is always surrounding you within without

 

There are those moments you meet people with whom you connect immediately, then there is this flowing flooding love.

You claim to have fallen in love with that one person. You celebrate this new connection. You name it soul connection.

What if the truth is, you have unconsciously choosen love in that moment in time?

What if the truth is, you have unconsciously tapped into love in that moment in time?

You do not fall in love, you choose love.

You choose out of millions of possible reasons.

 

What I am saying seems counter-intuitive and almost hurtful.

Who am I to dare to shatter this story of yours? A story of falling into love?

 

In my work as a life coach, I am ongoingly learning how everything about life is a choice, even the act of allowing love inside your space is a choice.

 

Hear my gentle whispers now:

You choose love everyday but most of the times, you do it unconsciously.

This very choice of yours tells a story of the Love Ocean you carry within

 

You choose love everyday but most of the times, you do it unconsciously.

This very choice of yours tells a story of how you can keep on feeling love for people despite all.

 

You choose love everyday but most of the times, you do it unconsciously.

This very choice of yours tells a story of how you are into love

Being into love is the essence of what which you are

 

What you are being asked to do from this moment onwards, is to bring the unconsciousness to your consciousness.

At this moment in time, you have choosen love for some aspects, some people, some situations, some instances, some things. And there are other  aspects, other people, other situations, other instances, other things, for which, for whom , you have choosen unlove.

 

If you pause enough – you will see your own story being told to you.

Yes there are inner conflicts right now, emerging wounds,pains, cringing cries.

These confuse and make you believe that love is something you fall in outside your space.

 

Love is a choice. Even walking away from that which affects your ecology is an act of love.

Love is always a choice.

You have made of it an unconscious choice. What if for now onwards, you start observing, seeing, hearing, hearing and sensing that which you are choosing?

 

Know that your ability to choose Love, tells a story of someone who already carries an Ocean of Love within.

This is your truth and this is your Story.

 

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Today my forest is dark and smoggy and the butterflies are gone…

What if you were taught and told that being sad, gloomy and down is part of life?

What if you were taught and told that inner conflicts are a healthy aspect of life, that aspect that ensures that growth is happening?

What if instead of labeling you as “depressed”, we would simply state that “you are currently going through a phase and you are to stay with it until you learn that which is seeking your attention”?

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What if for one day, we choose to honor our diverse spectrum of emotions instead of running.

What if for today, we give our sadness a throne, not because we seek to be the eternal sad one but simply we choose to be human

Carl Jung said

“The word “Happiness” would not mean the same if it were not balanced by sadness”.

 

There is nothing wrong in being sad, in crying, in feeling pain. What is wrong is when one stays in that phase for far too long.

As much as we eat to stay alive, as much as breathing is essential for our life, so are the emotions that we carry.

Emotions either energize us or drain us.

Sadness plays its own role in our life. At times, sadness drains us – we all know this very well.

But sadness on it’s own is not a good or bad emotion, it is just an emotion. An emotion that tells us that somewhere something just did notgo accordingly to our expectations.

Sadness is this energy motioning through our body unto our life and then, things happen to us deeply.

Sadness heightened when we battle between whatever it is and whatever ought to have been.

And it is a normal reflex. It is just a phase until one learns to shift.

Shifting here means not just accepting things for what they are but rather owning responsibility for what one feels.  But acceptance happens only when you stay with whatever it is that is happening to you.

Next time, you are drowning in sadness be reminded that there is no need to haste your self into smiling; there is no need into trying to be positive.

Be reminded that nothing is wrong with you. Know that you have embarked on your learning path and one day all this will ease from your life.

Darkness is purposeful to the forest, while some sleep,rest and heal, others live,roam and sing.

If your forest is deep dark right now and all the butterflies are gone, know that this is purposeful, know that out of this darkness more life will emerge....

Know that a little bit more of you will emerge.

 

Know that there is nothing wrong in being sad.

You are being taught about your humaness, know that this process will support you in playing a bigger role unto this world.

 

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